She was married, she was a mother. She is a mother. And so I think that she felt like there was this single girl life out there that she was missing, like the girl trip life and the whole sisterhood life that she thought she was missing by being married. And so she really believed that she had grown to a place where she was ready to experience it. And then she gets out there and she realizes, no, it's kind of like a mirage in a desert
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 5:00
And so it was like that whole, like, yeah, let's go out and hang. And she's like, I'm married. She'd rather be home with her husband. And I think that's the thing. Thank God her sister is strong, because if she wasn't, she could be led astray by her sister out there, single dating and, oh, look, so much fun. Thank God. Her sister was like, girl, my son isn't home
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:49
But finding yourself, like, at what point in time do you know who you are, that you have your identity, that you're not trying to search for your identity in people, things, ideas, places? At what point in time do we stop trying to find ourselves? And I've heard so many women say they had to divorce their husband so they could find themselves without his input
Bernard Harmon
@iambernard · 4:25
It don't take me a year. It takes me actually, by a few conversations, decide if I want to spend my life with this person. So I'm going to keep looking and hopefully someone's going to say yes. Hope you all had a great day and hope you thanks for letting me share. Bye
And I know some women who are in relationship got divorced, same thing. Their lives have gone downhill. I'm talking about going from being in a family, two kids, two perfect kids, a two car garage, home, beautiful diamond ring, tennis bracelets, constantly being showered with gifts too. Now you're scraping by because you were in a relationship with someone who was constantly building all of those things by themselves. You did not participate
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 1:50
I think it's great that you are still holding out for that love and still looking for that love and still believe that it's out there for you. And I definitely pray with you that god will lead you to that woman that he wants you to spend the rest of your life with. I think that's great. And, yes, there is a fear of missing out. I'm sorry. I'd rather be married in this world than to be single
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:33
She didn't have a bad marriage, and so if that's what she decides to do, but, yeah, the grass is not always greener on the other side. I'll take marriage over single any day of the week, but thank you so much
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:54
It's a lot of dynamics to this, which does really make it clear to really be careful how we marry and who we marry. Don't go crazy, but be careful with it because this is going to be your family. And if you break that up, it's really going to be hard. So, yeah, I wish the best for her because being this age and out there, it's not going to fare well for her
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:35
But it sounds to me like, again, her being a career woman or I don't know if I said this already, but her being a career woman, dating in like her what she's like in her 40s, right? It sounds the typical story, even right down to the divorce. I mean, I'm on dating apps all the time, or at least I'm looking at profiles all the time
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:11
And those things could be very helpful to a lot of women. A lot more helpful to women than hearing about your dating l's that you're taking out here in these streets. The other aspects of divorce would be a lot more helpful to women in general, instead of talking about how the guys you're meeting are lame and you thought your phone was going to blow up after your divorce, and it's not. And you're right. It was a very public divorce
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:45
And maybe she just felt like he didn't really love and appreciate her as much as he did in the beginning and all those things, and so maybe they just both got a little tired of each other. But I do think that her doing some of these videos and stuff. And again, I'm not knocking her. She's a single woman. She didn't do none of this stuff when she was married, so she respected her husband
LaShekia Chatman
@Sheika_MC · 4:07
And as much as we shame foMo, I don't think it's such a fear of missing out. You literally did miss out, because all of those things, all of those steps, they have a special and integral meaning in how we sort of identify to the outside world and identify values about ourselves, especially as women. And they can later affect intimate partnerships, whether it's an intimate partnership with our children or our mate