Hey, swell family. I hope you're having a wonderful Monday. So I was thinking last night about several years ago, when I was friends with this woman of God while I was between churches, and she wanted to introduce me to a friend of hers, another female friend, because she felt like her and I had so much in common that we would just hit it off wonderfully. And, yes, we had some things in common. We were both single
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 1:55
I was also going to say, and this might be a whole nother swell for another topic. For another swell. But what happens if your friend introduces you to their friend and then the two of you become closer friends than the original friend? Because I've experienced that too, where now we are doing things together and the friend that introduced us has kind of dropped off for some reason
Erica Jean
@HeyItsErica · 2:51
Uh, nope. Nothing in common. But I say all that to say this. True friendships are not forced. The powers that be. Whatever you believe in, that's what's going to arrange true friendship. That's all I know. Let me jump off of here. Take care
Cheyonia Wade
@Chey · 5:00
And you get that moment in time where you're like, you know what? Okay. You're not looking for anything from each other. You're not asking, can you do a favor or what do you do? I get leery people that meet me and start asking, what do I do? And things like that, like, why?
Cheyonia Wade
@Chey · 1:40
We enjoyed our time together, and that was really important to me. And she definitely left a staple in my book that was really important. And I had one friend who told me, I go in and out, and I'm like, okay, that's fine. Just let me know. And when she was ready, she let me know, and I was okay with that. It is what it is
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:01
I don't believe that just because one of my friends dated somebody or I dated somebody means that they're off limits to somebody in my circle of friends. It would really depends on the degree of relationship. Now, if I like the guy and he didn't like me, but he liked my friend, okay, so be it. I mean, there's nothing I can do about that. There's no relationship there. We weren't involved
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:48
No, but we should not be stifling anybody's money, man, anything because of some silly cold. And so what happened with me with one of my friends one time is I met this guy, literally, I was driving down the street. We was at a red light. He seen what he liked. He was like, yo, pull over. And so I thought that was kind of cute. Saturday afternoon, real safe. So I pulled over and we chatted and we exchanged numbers
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 4:55
Like you said, you met those random people and become friends with them for wherever it linked up in. But yeah, friendship is just one of those things, like you're friends or you're not. It's not really that difficult. And I have friends of different walks of life. Some friends are very successful, some friends are struggling, some friends, I have not found that way, while others have. But when it comes to friendship, I kind of just stick to myself
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:29
And if people are older, they're not going to be fun and they're going to be boring. And so you want people your age, but then when you get older, you're like, man, forget all that. I don't care if we're the same age. I don't care if you're married, single. I don't care what your race is. I don't care about any of that stuff
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:12
So, yeah, I think that there used to be a time where we would just allow friendships to evolve on their own, but now people have been betrayed and burnt so bad by folks, and they're carrying all these relational trauma wounds. It's like, I need to know you're real from the beginning. I don't have time to play games and end up getting my heart broken or end up looking foolish again. And that's pretty much what our world has become
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:01
Some people we just don't click with at all. No matter how much we have in common, we just don't click. Our personalities just don't click. But it's not hard. It's not hard. But I think that a lot of people deal with loneliness because even with all these apps that we have, if anything, it's made people more lonely because everybody wants to chat online, but nobody really wants to hang out in person
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:02
They only know what they've heard me say in church, not even in a one on one conversation. So I think that friendships are organic. They are. And those are some of the best relationships, the best friendships, the ones that are just organically made right? You just meet somebody, and you all start talking, and then before you know it, you all are talking more often, and you all are laughing and joking, and before you know it, you have a friendship being built