Hey, swell Cast family. I hope you're having a wonderful Friday so far. So I was having an interesting exchange with a dating relationship coach who advises women to expect men to pay good money for a first date and to take them on a higher value first date. Not to settle for ice cream dates and coffee dates as the first date because that will be indicative of where values you as a woman
Maurice Lekea
@malekea · 5:00
Every time I want to meet someone, a guy, when I feel hungry, I will come here because I can have a good dinner. Wow. Then I said, so then what? Do you date all those people just for one time thing? And she said, well, sometimes you have to do what you have to do because men need a woman so they can do whatever it takes to get the woman attention. That turned me off
Maurice Lekea
@malekea · 1:40
Another thing is when it comes to dating also, I am not the kind of person that you can impress with your I don't know, your money, your lifestyle. I have you know, I know what I want. You can have a money or not having money. It doesn't matter to me if I like you or if I don't like you. It will be just the same. You cannot impress me easily with your wealth or your money
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 5:00
It was just some other things that didn't line up for me that caused me to make my decision to just be friends. But the date was good. If I just went off that first date and the second date, because the second date we had, it was a really good date, too. If I just went off them two dates, I'd be looking at wedding dresses because our phone conversations were good and the vibe was good. So, yeah, I'm with you
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 3:56
But, yeah, I don't think a first date should be for me personally, this is just my personal opinion. Now, granted, if he always eats at these four or five star restaurants, and that's where he wants to eat at and he wants to take me there, I'll go, right? I'll definitely go, and I'll definitely eat, but I'm not requesting that
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 2:54
Do you want to go on another date? And I'm like, sure. Where are we going? And so we decided our schedules kept crossing, and so we end up deciding to go to Applebee's. And so we went to Applebee's, and we ordered our food. I ordered what I wanted. He ordered what he wanted. When it came time for the bill, I told the lady, I was like, you can put my food on one and put his on another
Maurice Lekea
@malekea · 4:26
And when you have someone associate, someone who talks about God all the time, I think that is a way to attract men. Because when you talk about God all the time to someone who also loves God and loves Jesus, they will be attractive to you but you are playing the game just to get them to a restaurant. And that's wrong. That's immoral, right? So
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:28
So is it really worth a man's effort and time and resources to put into a woman who makes you do all of this or requires all of this just so you can get to know her a little bit better? And it's ridiculous. It's ridiculous because, like I said, you got older women doing it, you got younger women doing it. It's just social media has really duped a lot of people into thinking that this is what dating is all about. This is what dating is
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:46
Hello, Edward. Just like I was telling Maurice, social media has given people a delusional perspective on dating. And a lot of these relationship gurus are telling women, this is exactly what you should be expecting on a quality date, and you should expect no less. And if you take anything less than that, then you don't know your personal worth. But that is not the case. I'm happy to go Dutch on a date. I don't care about that
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:12
So, yeah, these nameless, faceless influencers that are telling these women to do all this stuff on these dates, and yet they're not there when things go wrong, they're not there. They're going to make the women believe, oh, it was him and not you. So, yeah, I'm fine with going Dutch on a date. I mean, I don't find that to be offensive. I don't find it to be beneath Me
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:23
I agree. There is a lot of symp behavior and a lot of sugar daddies that make people will make women believe that they have more options than they really do. And when you have men that are cash appping women money just because, you know, it's hard to even if you are the man with integrity and character and all of that, it's hard to beat somebody that is dropping hundreds of dollars in a woman's cash app just because they think she's beautiful
Al Cosby
@Cosbyal4165 · 2:58
And again, like you mentioned, when you do things of that nature, you're not really getting to know each other for who you are. It's more so it's like, oh, how big is their wallet? How big is their purse? So it's like, okay, why did you go out? Now?
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 4:46
As a matter of fact, the last day that I went on, it was a guy who was a retired army, I think it was army or Navy, one of them. And he had his own home, a very nice car that he was happy to show me. He was doing well for himself. But when it came down to how he felt on the inside, it did not match with me. So we didn't go beyond that first date