And so weight loss surgery seems to be their best option since some of them are just physically unable to move in a way that they would be able to get exercise. I notice that these spouses and significant others never really look happy when they're at these doctor's offices. They never seem to be very happy about the fact that their person is finally deciding to take charge of their health and do something and to be proactive. And I kind of understand why
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:58
We should be looking at these relationships and going, wow, this is harmful not only for the obese person, but it's harmful for the enabler. It's just a harmful relationship for both. Now, people become enablers because they want to please people. Maybe some of these enablers were abused as children, abandoned as children. They went through their own trauma and it caused them to become people. Pleasers to where? If it makes you happy, I'll do it
Arthur Benitez
@Arthur_Dante · 4:58
I haven't seen specifically that TV show, but I have seen similar ones and I have seen cases where the enabler may be their mother or maybe their sister or well, a sibling. So I understand what you said about the unhealthy relationship and I agree with it. I think that this vicious cycle of needing each other is very dangerous because we all know what comes from being so obese. Obesity is sometimes classified as a disease
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:56
However, I will say because I have been binge watching my 600 pound life. And what I will say is I do agree with a lot of things that you said. I feel sorry for those people who the people who are going for the weight loss surgery, I feel sorry for them because I see how they struggle. Like, they struggle to even do anything right. And so I see how they struggle
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:07
It. Also, I spoke about this on my Swell, but I had a friend who had that weight loss surgery. She had that weight loss surgery done and she ended up leaving her husband because she realized that he was abused. Well, she knew before he was abusive. She just didn't have the inner strength to leave because she was big and all these other things and she was nowhere near as big as those people are, but she was still big it
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:25
Hey, Arthur, thank you so much for your response. Yes, it can be a vicious cycle. And I guess, like I said, I'm not an avid watcher of my 600 pound life. I'm always happy to see people take control of their situation, to finally make a life changing step towards becoming more healthy. And we know that the people on my 600 pound life are kind of in a life or death situation as it relates to their weight
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:23
And so I get it, you need to lose weight in order to get to a place where you can start being more independent and taking care of your health. I think she wasn't at that point. My student wasn't at that point. I mean, she walked in and out of class every week. We had class together, but she was extremely heavy and she was young, she was in her twenty s at the time. She was extremely heavy, so she's lost weight