And apparently other married couples agree. So I know that dear Auntie Ange, please follow her on this swell if you haven't dear Auntie Ange made a post one time asking about married couples having separate homes. Now, Cameron actually said separate homes is not a bad idea either
Kwa NateKo
@kwa · 2:36
But it really is not about the space that you're in. It's the intent behind it. I listened to one, there was one lady on YouTube that actually went through a similar thing with her husband and she gives advice to married women and they sleep in separate rooms, but it actually improved their sex life because when they did come together, it was for that purpose
Erica Jean
@HeyItsErica · 2:13
Hey, Tanya. Merry Christmas to you and your family. I did not even know this was a thing of married couples sleeping in separate bedrooms. This is really foreign to me. I know that my husband and I, we have the separate spaces as far as certain parts of the home. Home where he would work on his music or where I would do my knitting and writing and such. But it's foreign concept to me of married people sleeping in separate bedrooms
Oraida Levi
@TalkswithOraida · 3:35
You know, the dynamics of marriage to everyone is so different, even, like, not sharing the same space. So they've been married for a long time, so clearly it worked for them. So this is so interesting. I'm going to follow the person you said that had mentioned it on here before because that is definitely an interesting topic. Thank you for sharing
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 2:21
But I tell you what might have saved the marriage is if I got some attention and if somebody was in the room with me instead of sleeping on the sofa or sleeping in the other spare bedroom. So I don't agree
Erica Jean
@HeyItsErica · 1:46
But when you love someone or when you marry someone, why would you want to be apart from that person during your sleeping hours? So that's a very refreshing perspective. Even though I understand Cameron Diaz perspective as far as just getting quality sleep or having a separate space, but as far as sleeping away from the partner that you love, it's just too different offer for me. It's different. It's not normal
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:17
Because typically when couples start sleeping in separate bedrooms, there's usually a problem within the marriage itself, not necessarily the sleeping aspect of it, but the marriage itself is usually breaking down somewhere to the point where they don't want to be in shared spaces together if they don't have to be. Normally you hear about couples sleeping in separate bedrooms when a separation is on the horizon or something of that nature
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:00
He didn't just sleep on the couch all night or anything like that. We did not witness anything of that nature growing up. So, yes, it's foreign to me as well. I do understand where if a person is having some sleep issues or some issues that's disrupting the other one's sleep to the point where they can't be productive, to the point where I'm tired all day because my husband's snoring kept me up all night and I could barely function
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:17
I don't know how would feel waking up in the middle of the night and my husband's not there in the room and being okay with that. I don't know how I would feel if I don't think I would like it. How about that? I don't think I would like it
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:05
And so maybe when they are home, maybe they just continue to not sleep in the same room together because they're used to living out of hotels and different things like that or having an apartment in New York and a home in LA type situation. But me personally, I would want to be in the bed with my husband. I believe that's part of two lives becoming one, and I would feel more safe with him right there
Erica Jean
@HeyItsErica · 2:36
The kind I get is called breathe right. And you can leave it on all night long. And so far, that has helped me. But like I said, I don't use it all the time because I don't snore, like all the time. I have to be really sick for that to happen. So, yeah, there are different things that people can do and can use so that they don't have to be apart from their partners all the time
Rebuilding Rob
@RebuildingRob · 3:09
But as I mentioned on my blog, there was a relationship I was in where I use a CPAP machine when I sleep at night. And apparently my partner at the time was a very light sleeper to the point where she could hear my CPAP machine, like the air running through my hose. Not the machine running itself, but just the air coming through the hose. And she claimed that she could even still hear me snoring through the machine
Kwa NateKo
@kwa · 4:59
But if it's a thing that's want to be, that you want to be, but you have to consider consistency, the reason, et cetera. I think sometimes we think a good relationship is sacrificing for other people. But to keep a relationship honest, I also think, and the best it can be, I think you have to have, you have to really pay attention to what's important to you and make sure that's being taken care of too
Kwa NateKo
@kwa · 4:41
That came out wrong. It's not like you're preparing for separation, but it's an opportunity to be a little bit stronger in that you create a situation that no matter what you know, you're content with yourself, whatever they decide to do. And that gives you kind of a position of like, I don't want to say power, but you have to be direct about your concerns, direct about what you believe is going to what decision you will make