Hey, swellcast family. I hope you're having a wonderful Monday. So I saw a relationship coach make a post that said that flirting is a form of adultery, period. That's it. There was nothing else. And he himself is married
Travis W
@twalls2023 · 0:57
Is it? Yes, it is cheating 100%. If you're saying or being flirtatious to someone who's not your significant other, yes, it is. It is 100% cheating. I do not endorse flirting or anything. If you wouldn't say it in front of your significant other, that's a problem. So, long story short yes, to me it is cheating 100%. It
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 1:51
But don't get the big head and think that because they're complimenting you on the way you look, that they necessarily want to have an affair or cheat with you. Some form of flirting is innocent, like I just said. But some forms, they really mean something. You're looking at them way too much. You're asking them inappropriate questions. You're groping or touching or just getting way too close a hug way too long
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Eluchianna Olive
@Luchianna · 4:48
Can't do anything because you are with somebody, and I have a healthy fear of that. So not going to happen. But, yeah, I think it's flirtation. It's good for the soul, and you just have to make sure that you don't cross those barriers. Okay, thanks
Kwa NateKo
@kwa · 1:46
When you start making plans with other people and spending time with them in ways your significant other you know your significant other would not approve of and you know the reason, even if you have no intent behind it is because that person isn't attracted as intentions for you. And maybe have even stated such, then you've crossed a boundary that I think is damaging to a relationship and you're not honest with your partner. Maybe some partners allow for that because they think they see infidelity as sex
Kwa NateKo
@kwa · 1:19
And I would almost say it's almost harmless in practice and something you could even bring back home, because you practice out in the woods, which some people may not agree with or whatever, but if you exchange phone numbers, and that can continues it becomes this intentional thing where you set side of time, set time aside to basically develop in a relationship with someone else
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 1:59
Hey, good evening. Is flirting a form of adultery? It depends on what your actual ending? If you're looking for ending that's going to, you know, cause some other than flirt, I would say yes, because a lot of times when people flirt, you know, they have feelings for that person they're flirting with
Kwa NateKo
@kwa · 4:10
Like I said, if you're just flirting and passing I don't think this applies so much. But if it's the kind of flirting that gives the impression of opening up the door to other possibilities, whether that is going to happen or not, it communicates that you don't think that relationship is necessarily worth respecting. And you're willing to take the risk of it and assume what would happen if what would happen if your partner found out that was something and actions you were taking?
Arthur Benitez
@Arthur_Dante · 4:58
I'm just mentioning it because it is something that I have seen. I said a group of ladies because I think that is the case in this particular group. I wouldn't think that there are many males, usually men, when they flirt to a woman. They are very clear on their intentions. They aren't just doing it because just to get attention. They have real intentions of something
Arthur Benitez
@Arthur_Dante · 2:59
Hello. Hey, sorry, I was just thinking about this subject and I had a few ideas that I would like to contribute more. Well, first of all, I was thinking that the verb that I used earlier was the wrong one. I used conquer because in Spanish that's the one that we use, we use conquistad. So just but what I was talking about is seduction. That's the right verb. The intentions of flirting usually is to seduct the other people
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 1:00
I agree with this so much, and you're right. If you can't say it in front of your significant other, should you be saying it at all? If you can't do it in front of your significant other, should you be doing it like the little innocent arm rubs, back rubs, and, you know, the whole complimenting someone's body, somebody's outfit and all these different things? Would you do that if you were in front of your wife or girlfriend?
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:09
And so therefore, they're not picking up what I'm putting down, so to speak. And so, yeah, it can be such a weird space. I think that there are certain things that are obvious flirting. I mean, if you're leaning over so that somebody can look down your blouse, if you are rubbing up against someone a lot, if you are sending little flirty texts and messages and things, I believe that certain behaviors are pretty much overt
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:19
Hey, SIS, thank you so much for your response. As I was saying that depending on someone's mental and emotional state, something you're doing that truly is innocent could be perceived as flirting simply because of the lens that they treat. They the lens that they decide to see it through. And it can really cause awkwardness in a relationship when you're just trying to be nice
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:23
Hey. So I wanted to unpack a few things that you said. You had mentioned that flirting opens doors, can open doors for you. But I would wonder, like, if I have to flirt, which means I have to kind of be deceitful, do I really need to walk through that door if I can't get it any other way?
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:55
And maybe because in their mind, that's not the goal or the purpose, but it can be perceived as flirtatious depending on the person. I think that it's really kind of subjective to people as to what is flirting. You can be accused of flirting with somebody and you aren't even thinking twice about that person. But yet, because of the lens, they choose to see your behavior, they think that you're flirting. So I know Me touch is like one of my love languages
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:25
And then next thing you know, you're at each other's homes and you're hanging out to the wee hours of the morning or talking on the phone or texting to the wee hours of the morning
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 1:24
I don't care about none of that stuff. Of if you are in a relationship, whatever condition or state that it's in, then I know that you are off limits to me. You're off limits. I'm not looking for a way in. You're off limits. Like I said, two innocent people. Ain't nobody really date nobody. You all just working together. You all just happen to like each other, find each other attractive, then that's one thing
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 1:41
And next thing you know, it's spiraling out of control and you don't know what to do to stop it. So you're right. Consider your actions. Consider the consequences, and are you ready to deal with and pay for those consequences? Thank you so much
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:48
And if you don't make those boundaries, then your relationship is doomed. To fail anyway, right? But you have to be upfront about those boundaries that you have. Like, hey, I don't mind you, whatever, but when it comes to this, there's a hard line. I'm there. And whatever that is for your relationship. But to me, flirting is not a form of adultery. To me, it's not
Eluchianna Olive
@Luchianna · 4:49
If I'm doing something that may have caused them to think differently, then that's my bad, and I would definitely say that, but I will never embarrass my partner. But nevertheless, we're talking about opening doors or we're talking about just stuff. Not flirting with somebody to get somebody a job or flirting with somebody and then you're accepting gifts. That's absolutely crossing the line. But again, that's why people are different. People don't think the same
L A
@homosanity · 5:00
And what's interesting and something that I notice is that so many partners go and do their own thing and they're okay with that. I think more than straight couples are, women are more protective of their man and wanting to know everywhere they are and what they're doing. And I don't see that as much in the gay community. And so there seems to be more opportunity for flirting and flirting being okay. That would drive me nuts
