We and so these are looked at as desperate attempts to get a man's attention by trying to become everything we believe a man wants in a woman. But here's the thing. I'm seeing the label PickMe being applied to women who don't fit this category. I'm seeing this label being applied to women who simply voice their desire to be married. They voice their desire to be a wife. They voice their desire to be a mother. And in turn, other women are calling them pickmes
Like, there's a whole bunch of things that have happened in the last 20 to 30 years that have challenged what was the traditional model. And I don't think there's one right way. I believe that part of what you're saying in this whole pick me thing is maybe just one of the current ways people are starting to articulate out loud what they want. And of course, other people naturally are judging that because unfortunately, that's what our society does
Luce Fonrose
@ilovelucee · 2:05
Like you said, I personally don't believe we were created to be alone. So I don't understand what's the problem? Second of all, why am I picking me? Because I have a certain thought that man or men are not influencing my decision. It's not because I want anything from them. That's just how I see things. But I don't know
So I'm glad you brought this up because you bring it up, like the really good topics, and I'll just say, listen, we don't need to participate in their rhetoric anymore. Call me a pick me if you want. I don't give a flying flip. You can look me straight in the face and call me a b****. And I will not even really care, because I know what I am and I know what I am not
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 1:54
And I don't want to make it feminist against non feminist, but that term is used like your swell last week. If we're not part of the sisterhood, if we don't gang up on somebody, then you're automatically a pick me. God forbid you have your own opinion. God forbid you choose a man's side. If it's like an online debate, you can see it from a man's point of view, then all of a sudden, you're a pick me
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:44
The pick me and pick me shows. You know, what's interesting about this conversation is that to me it fringes on conservatism versus progressiveness or liberalism in the matter of a woman proclaiming that something she really wants. And Kate's Four harkens to an old traditional setting of what was expected of a woman to some degree. Not saying it's good or bad, but traditionally marriage was a large focal point of what was expected of a woman growing up in America in 200 years ago
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:37
Well, d***, if she happens to like men, she should be wanting to position herself based on the things that she desires because it's from an authentic space, and she's being her true self. And then the person, the man that is compatible with her will then find her. That doesn't sound like pick me at all. That sounds like the same thing Lee did. Oh, my gosh. I woke up
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:50
I don't understand why you have to be a pick me because you are doing the things that women used to typically do to get a man's attention. Yes. I will agree though, that there are some women out there who are disingenuous. They are just saying everything that the men want to hear because they know this is what the men want to hear and they know this is what's going to attract men to them, even though they don't truly feel that way on the inside