But a lot of these men are no longer even in the dating game. They're married, and so they don't understand what the current dating culture is like, especially if they don't have any kids that are in the dating culture. They have kids who are married. They're married. Nobody's out here in the dating culture to understand what the landscape looks like in 2024
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 1:37
Hey, sis. Um, this is good. I don't know why people were listening to Steve Harvey in the first place. Because he wrote a book. I mean, tons of people write books. That don't mean it's any good. I mean, this man has been divorced a couple of times
Erica Jean
@HeyItsErica · 3:45
So nine times out of ten, they're not going to approach you. You may have that few percentage that don't mind approaching, but, you know, if you're trying to find prospective partner or date, more than likely you're going to have to, you know, be the huntress. But, yeah, this is great. Swell. Thank you for sharing it
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:27
They like to do the approaching, but from what I've heard, they're not necessarily going to go deep into the jungle when they get ready. When they get ready. So when they get ready to look for a wife, they're going to look for one in somewhat their immediate circle, which, you know, could be a college campus, in his church, his immediate area. And so I think women do have to put themselves in position to be seen
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 4:13
But, yeah, I'm not gonna be out here doing a mate call. I'm not gonna be doing it. I'm not gonna be cockadood and trying to see who gonna hear my call and enjoy it. No, I got other things to do. So whenever he come, he come. And, you know, I dated plenty of people, and it didn't
LaShekia Chatman
@Sheika_MC · 4:48
But then when we were getting married, he was like, no. So that even changes as far as reliable advice from men that you admire. Cause they're people. There are people, and so are we. The more we respect our own intuition and pathways, I think the better we'll do at relating and attracting people who resonate with us, no matter what age we are or gender. Thank you so much for sharing that topic. Bye
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:14
And then with all, like I said, with the hash metoo movement and women having complete hysterical meltdowns because a man is staring at them, which is what men have always done, because they're visual, a lot of men are just like, nevermind. So Steve needs to tailor his advice to what men up today and how men of today view women and relationships versus how he views women and relationships from the women that he grew up around back in the day. So thank you so much, sis
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:43
And that's why I said, steve, you gotta update your advice, because this dating culture is not the dating culture you were a part of back in the day before you got married. And so, yes, men and women are wired the same. And so there are certain things about each of us that will not change because of the way we are wired naturally. But as far as the dating landscape is concerned, it's just not the same as it used to be
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:56
I mean, they really don't. Especially if I'm on a date with somebody. I don't care who's there with whom or if I am by myself and I got a good book, I don't care who's there, who's not there, who's there with whom. I mean, I'm not there for that
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:43
Asus, thank you so much for your response. I agree with some of your points. I do believe that women should stop putting so much effort into trying to meet the right guy. I don't think that we should be, you know, putting in a lot of effort as far as making sure that, you know, we look a certain way in terms of, like, our makeup, our hair, putting all this money and all this stuff into how we look
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:26
Hey, sis. Thank you so much for your response. I agree with you. Our dating advice can change depending on our perspectives, changing, our experience, changing. Maybe we've developed a different level of wisdom in certain areas, and maybe we've been exposed to some things that we weren't exposed to before. And so even the advice that people give us, it can change. It can change
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Erica Jean
@HeyItsErica · 1:21
But, but, yeah, but someone who is seeking out dating information or what's happening in the dating world just cuz and they're married, that is kind of, kind of weird. But, um, yeah, what people don't know is that I, I made the first contact to my, uh, before I actually met my husband face to face. You know, my mom had gave me his number because I said, you know what? Let me have his number
dee felton
@MrDee · 2:58
It was when Steve was doing the dating and, you know, his father or, you know, my grandfather, where my grandfather, my grandmother never worked a day in her life. She lived to be 93, and she was well taken care of. Had 13 kids, stayed at home. But that's not today's society. Everything is different now. So that's just my thoughts