But one thing I know about myself is that even though I may not shed a bunch of tears, maybe I go into the mode of, let's figure this out. Let's work on this. Maybe I don't cry as easily, but I definitely am moved to action. I'm definitely moved by things I see, by things I hear, by things I experience. I'm deeply moved by those things. It's just that you may not see the physical manifestation of that
dee felton
@MrDee · 5:00
But I myself, I got to be really moved to cry, and I really got to be moved to cry in front of someone and be vulnerable. And I think that's just mostly a man's way. We can express ourselves more than people think that we can. We just choose to hold those things in. We have our times when we let it out. Personally, myself, I feel like I don't know what anger is
Erica Jean
@HeyItsErica · 3:29
This is a really good topic, Tanya, because just like you, I don't cry at the drop of a hat. I truly don't. I'm the type of person where, of course, I have emotions and I'm a shoulder to lean on, but I'm instantly in problem solving mode, you know, because I'm like, okay, we have this issue. We have this problem. And I'll do one or two things
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 3:23
Hey, what's going on, Tanya? You know what's interesting about this? Well, because I had a conversation about a year ago when the mother of my son told me that there was something wrong with me. And I said, okay, what does that name be more specific? And she said, do you realize I've never seen you cry before? I said, okay, so that means something wrong with me. She said, it is
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 2:42
Would just be some hungry tears, some dehydrated tears. But if you're hungry, I hear, okay, let's go ahead and get you something to eat. That'll solve the hunger. That'll solve the tears. Boom. But, yeah, unfortunately, I don't feel safe enough to cry. There's a level of vulnerability with crying, and maybe whether that's in public or even with friends and family, and that's a level of comfort that hasn't proven well for me
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:47
Tanya, I am not a crier either, partially because I'm like you. When I was younger, I think I did a lot of crying when I was younger. And so now I'm just pretty much all cried out. It takes a lot for me to cry, and I never cry in public. I'll never cry in front of anybody. My children have very rarely seen me cry. When my parents died, when my dad died, my children didn't see me cry
Jason Ellison
@JujitsuJason · 3:08
But my lord, there's definitely been times of my life where I've cried more or less because I was hurting. And here recently, the past four or five years, I've cried more than I've cried in my whole entire life. And it's because I miss so much about my life. I miss my kids being young. I miss being married. I miss that whole experience. It came and it went. It was so fast
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 1:49
Yeah, tears can express a lot of different emotions versus if somebody was mad and they're smiling, then that would seem off and is not quite fitting for that particular emotion. But with tears, tears can cover a wide range of emotions. But thank you so, so much for this
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 1:16
You need to cry and cut. You can't just cry. And, I mean, I totally felt that. It's like, okay, you can sit here and cry, and we can weep, and we could be sorrowful and all those things, but we got to act at the same time
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 1:54
Hey, mo, you know, this. Today's society has this fascination with wanting to see men cry in a way that I feel like is completely unhealthy. I didn't see my dad crying when I was growing up. I didn't even wonder why. I didn't even wonder why he didn't cry. Like, it didn't even occur to me that my dad should be crying in front of us, you know?
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:28
When I'm praying, when I'm at home, when I'm worshipping, I do cry. In the car, I do cry. So it's not that my tear ducts won't produce tears or anything. It's just that when I feel safe, like you said, when I feel safe to cry, I cry. If I don't feel safe, then I don't cry. And it's almost like it's intrinsic. It's not even something that we think about
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:41
But all my parents had to do was yell at me, and I would just fall apart. It didn't take much for me, but my sister, she was the hard one. She was the one that no matter what you. No matter how much you yell, no matter how much you whatever, she just wasn't really moved by that. But, yeah, it's crazy. But like you, I have deep emotions. I feel things on a very deep level
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:31
Yeah, it's amazing how we can turn it on and off sometimes. Like I was telling Angela, sometimes it feels intrinsic. If we just don't feel safe to cry, we just don't. The tears just don't come. It's not that we're doing everything in our power to make ourselves not cry. It's just that our body, our mind just knows that we're not in a place that we perceive to be safe
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 1:32
So anyway, I felt the spirit and I wanted to cry, but I held back on purpose because I was like, what is this feeling? And I was definitely not. Life had hit me enough where I learned even at like 20, 1920. Don't you cry for these people? So as much as I felt the spirit, I just felt, like, just melting in his presence and crying. I didn't feel safe enough to do so. I couldn't do it
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 3:36
But, yeah, I'm like you. I used to be a really big crybaby when I was younger. Used to be a really big crybaby. Now that I'm older, I'm not as much. I've just grown up and I just don't. But, yeah