@MsColes77
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:54

Participation Trophy Psychology

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Should we expect to be rewarded for getting the interview but not getting the job? I remember a few years ago, I interviewed for a position, and it was between me and one other person, and this person had an advantage over me. They had some knowledge in community clinical health that I did not have, and so they were the better candidate for this particular position

#excellence #winning #loss #lessons

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@porterskingdom
Porter Linda
@porterskingdom · 4:38

@MsColes77 #participation trophy. #porterskingdom #mythoughts

Kids are so parents are just running so many different ways that, you know what, half of the time kids don't get to make memories. So if they have that trophy on that wall saying, hey, I participated, that's a daily reminder that, hey, I'm enjoying life. I'm not miserable over here in my bedroom. Can't go out because it's so hot. You know what I mean? I don't know
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@ilovelucee
Luce Fonrose
@ilovelucee · 4:06
I do believe that with kids, the reason why up until you're like six, seven, it's okay, is because they're still learning their emotions and things like that, and you're still really cultivating their linda. So I believe that that's fine. They shouldn't necessarily be thrown into the real world as super, super quick, but it's still an important lesson to learn. Nonetheless. They're still children, so you still have to be a little bit more fragile and sensitive
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@DearAuntyAng
Ann-Gela Kaye
@DearAuntyAng · 4:26
I'm a part of an organization. Well, really, I'm not a part of it. I signed up for their newsletter, right? And they have a conference every year, but I haven't gone. But I get the newsletter and I get all the emails and stuff they send out regularly. And in reading the newsletter, they had a couple of articles and I was like, I can write an article because I know that I like to write and I have a skill of writing
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@Andrea_Speaks
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:57
We can't coexist. Either I'm better than you or I got to take you out. All that stuff is crazy to me. It's just crazy to me. And I had my stepson, he had that, and I had to tell him, listen, your dad was responsible for getting you to the age of 18, the age of 21. And he did that. He was right by your side
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@Phil
phil spade
@Phil · 4:57

@MsColes77 Learning from losing

Because when I started, and I'm drawing on two decades of experience running youth sports leagues and coaching our youth, and I did see a participation trophy, psychology, but that quickly dissipated and was really kind of relegated to just the very, very early year youth sports leagues. And somebody mentioned that they had that for their four year old soccer league. And that's really where I saw it the most
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@MsColes77
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:16

@porterskingdom

We certainly can lose gracefully. We can be a person of character even in the face of loss. We can lose gracefully and be resilient enough to try again, because every year, every NFL team tries again. You start out at O and O and you try again. And the ultimate goal for every team in the league is to get to the Super Bowl, and only two will make it out of 32 teams. So that's the goal, to try again
@MsColes77
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:50

@DearAuntyAng

Hey, SIS, thank you so much for your input. And I agree with you. I agree. I think that, you know, when when kids are small and they don't understand how winning and losing works, you know, it's good to have like, little consolation prizes and participation prizes for little ones because they don't understand winning and losing. All they know is that person gets a prize, and I don't
@MsColes77
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:26

@Andrea_Speaks

You're going to get the winning prize or you're going to get a constellation prize, but you're going to come away with something regardless. And I think sometimes we translate that to life itself, that we should come away with something regardless, that nobody should walk away empty handed. But as I was telling everybody else, we have to learn how to lose gracefully sometimes
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@MsColes77
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 1:09

@marklesserart

Hey, Mark, thank you so much for your response. I love how you said learn about yourself. And I think it's great because you also left a response to one of my swells saying, there's a lesson in everything, and I believe there is a lesson in everything, and I think sometimes in losing. We sit down, we regroup, and we kind of do a little reconciliation to see, okay, what can I learn from this situation? Where did I fall short?
@MsColes77
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:15

@Phil

Hello, Phil. Thank you so much for your response. And I definitely hear everything you're saying. You were mentioning that the participation trophy is typically limited to sports, and I was just thinking about how, like on game shows, there is a consolation prize for the contestant that doesn't win in. They don't say you lost. They just say you're a runner up. You have a winner and a runner up, and the winner gets the big grand prize
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@MsColes77
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:47

@nikia.antonette

But I think also too, we have to teach our kids a balance. But we also, I believe, need to teach our kids how to lose gracefully, how to be a good sportsman, how to accept that while you're not going to win everything, there's still a way to demonstrate character even in the face of loss
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