They're not mutually exclusive but I think that when we say, oh, a guy is nice, we're less inclined to be physically attracted to a man that's just nice. We're more inclined to be attracted to a man that is good. A leader, a protector, a stand up guy those are the kinds of guys we're drawn to. Thank you for listening
Al Cosby
@Cosbyal4165 · 3:40
And sadly, the way the society is, men are supposed to be the ones that are upstanding and have a backbone and it's right and it's correct in that sense, but at the same time, it's like, I can understand how that gentleman was upset and everything. I don't think he really had to go viral and say how upset he was about it. I'm going to say suck it up. In this case, just suck it up
Kelly Thomas
@KNicole · 1:30
With me, I don't have a problem with that at all. So I think it just depends on the woman, on what level of niceness she wants in a man. Um, but for me, it's just about having, I guess, a great balance in between the two, if that makes sense. If
Al Cosby
@Cosbyal4165 · 2:12
And if you do have somebody special, it's okay to open up in front of them. And if it leads to that, that's fine. Then this way, they could be there to comfort and console you. So I do understand where you're coming from with that. So it's not my swell cast. Ms. Coles did it, but I'm going to thank you for your reply anyway. And as always say, stay blessed and keep inspiring
Danny Ruel
@DannyRuel · 0:27
The quickest way not to get no coochie is to be out here crying in the streets like you all emotional. I saw that video of that guy. So many women lying to that man. They need to cut that out, tell him the truth. He needs to be more stoic. Cut al that crying out, it's ridiculous
Brian Foreman
@BKFOREMAN69 · 4:45
It's new, it's exciting, it's fun. And then the law of attraction kicks in and they start seeing other people having interest in them. That nice guy then cheats because al of a sudden his even if his girlfriend's an eight all around personality, looks, everything, that nine coles along. The stupidity of being a nice guy, a good guy is faithful and loyal throughout the relationship
Nidhin George 🔷
@geo_rhymes · 4:19
It's ironic when you think about it, because I think, and I would argue, that human beings look for clarity in their partner, but unfortunately that's not true, at least in the initial stages, we look for the lack of clarity. We look for something that keeps us on our toes, that arouses the curiosity and makes us want to explore, for lack of a better word
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:24
Like I was saying, let the guy be the shoulder that I cry on and then we both get up because he's going to say, okay, now, babe, you cried now come on, let's go handle this business. And I'm like, okay, daddy, right? Yeah, it's funny, too, because my older son, he fits that good guy category, right? Like, my mom's in the hospital
He wants to be there and get that that recognition and make it pretty clear that who's kind of like the first priority in his mind because he's going to put you before everybody, probably including his mom. Now you're going to find him completely boring or just not attractive for one reason or another. Or you might go with the nice guy, but a lot of women don't. The good guy, he's going to study from the beginning
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 1:48
And it's like, no, but you do want an air of mystery. As to women like to wonder how a man feels about them sometimes. Is he thinking about me? We like that. We like it when a man reserves some of these things for himself and doesn't pour his entire heart out and tells us constantly that he loves us, how much he's thinking of us and we're his world and blah, blah, blah
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:03
We if we if we meet a guy and we're not too crazy about him, we'll try to find something positive in him. And one of those things is, well, he's nice. And usually when you hear a woman say he's nice, that typically means that nothing else is really turning her on about him. But he's nice. He's not rude. He's polite. He's got manners and stuff like that
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:33
He needs some brothers around him who don't give him no excuses. Don't give him no excuses to be soft. Don't give him no excuses to be crying. Don't let him play the victim. Shake him up. Stand up. All right? Take the L. She stood you up, okay? And then we go back and try it again with somebody else. But, I mean, we're not going to cry over spilled milk
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 1:24
Hey, Brian. I have missed your voice. I'm gonna have to go to your swells because it doesn't bring you up in my circle anymore. I don't know why, but I have to go look at your swell. Listen to your swells, rather. But I love your story. I absolutely love everything about it. You said you used to be the nice guy. Now you have become the good guy, and I love that
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:31
So they'll take us bad attitude. They'll take us with all of our issues and problems. But we know that with a good man, he's got options. He can have just about any woman he wants. And so if we want a man like that, if we see that he is somebody that if he's catching my eye, I know he's catching other women's eyes too
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:20
He's not just going to go down with the ship. He going to be like, look, I'm still a man, okay? Like you said, if women see that, they're going to be like, oh, okay
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:27
Hey, scribe, thank you so much for your response. One thing you said that really stood out was when you were saying that he's going to make you like his world. You're going to be his number one priority. His life is going to be centered around you. And that's exactly what a lot of women don't want. It might be cute in the beginning, but it's going to get real annoying real quick. It's going to get real old real quick
Kelly Thomas
@KNicole · 1:11
If he felt like he needed to do that, then fine, he can go ahead and do that. I'm not going to judge him or look at him any differently. My man is very alpha. Like, alpha, alpha. I think if I saw him cry, I would be like, oh, my gosh, this is really traumatic of what's going on with him because he just doesn't do it
Dare Darice Strickland
@SOMEWHERE2 · 3:34
You this is I dare say I was just listening to about different kinds of men and what attracts women to them. I'm a senior citizen, and I lived with a man for 40 something years. Didn't go well. I don't know why it took so long for it to end, but it did