Hey swell cast family, I hope you're having a wonderful Friday afternoon so far. So I was part of this singles relationship group on Facebook and a guy listed his dating preferences. He said he wanted a woman between the ages of 38 to 35 I think was the range. He wanted a woman with no children preferably, but if she had one child it was okay
Brian Foreman
@BKFOREMAN69 · 3:49
I didn't talk to him for a year, but I was so upset that you're setting an unusual, a perfect standard. It's okay to have preferences. I prefer different things. I guess I won't get into my preferences. But it's one thing to have preferences, it's another to be locked in on a certain type that may lead you to disappointment because you're not what they're looking for
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:59
We were talking about this on something similar to this, on another swell, but I never understood that either. I don't understand why women get so upset when a man says his preferences. And it's not you. Your lid don't go to every pot. Your lid is not going to go to every pot. And so you shouldn't even expect it to. And like you said, we got to stop measuring ourselves based off of other people's opinions
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 1:18
And it was just this aesthetic standard that she had for men where she wanted that muscular body, she wanted that hard body, even though she was not really a fitness person herself. And it just blows my mind how we can expect so much more from other people than what we're willing to even bring to the relationship or even bring to ourselves. So it's just mind blowing to me
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:40
Meanwhile, you're in a group of several thousand people, and you just don't know who happened to be scrolling and looking at that that thread and looking at that exchange and seeing you going off on this dude just because he's got a preference that you don't fit. So now you're feeling some kind of way, you're feeling rejected, you're feeling offended because you're not fitting the mold that he wants in his life
Erica Jean
@HeyItsErica · 4:53
It's not really hard when someone says I don't date these people because these people are such and such or I can't stand this group of people because they're such and such. That's why I don't date them or I don't date this person because when it starts getting to those zones we're now stepping out of preference into prejudice. We're now stepping out ladies preferences to being judgmental. We're now stepping out of preference into hate
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 4:23
You. Good morning. I want to comment on the post just because I always try to look at everything all around and just not just straightforward into one area. I do want to say that he's allowed to have ladies preferences. We have ours, he's allowed to have his
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 1:57
He may fall in love with a woman that happens to be at 40 or up or something. Anything can happen. But he's just saying that if he had his choice, this is the type of woman that he typically is drawn to. And there's nothing wrong with that at all. Absolutely nothing wrong with that. As everyone else said, we have our preferences. Whether we state them or not, we have them
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:48
But when you have these men out here talking to telling other men to avoid single mothers, you don't want to be a stepfather. That makes it worse. And so Ms. Andrea on the swell cast made a swell cast about, you may not want a single mother, but you don't have to belittle a single mother. And I agree with that one thing. He did not do this guy on this post. He did not belittle anyone. He didn't belittle anyone