For some folks, maybe it was good that some people walked away from them, but I've always been that person. And I think it's because that's what I would want for myself. I think I give to people what I want for myself. I want someone to stand by me. I want someone to stick it out with me. I want someone who's willing to walk through adversity with me. I want someone who's willing to listen and willing to respond when I'm in need
But the flowers was the thing, you know what I mean? And that's what I mean when you can't see the picture when you're in the frame. My spiritual advisor at that point, he pulled me straight out the frame and was like, they hair flowers. You do that because that's who you are. That's the gentleman you are. That's the man you are. You take your girl flowers, what they do with it, that's day business
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:27
We don't keep a record of those things. And so when you start to measure what you're doing for them versus what they're doing for you, that means you're keeping a record. That means you're keeping the score. And it's not a competition about who can be the best mate or who can be the best friend or who can be the best most loyal, whatever. It's not about that. It's really just about doing your best
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 4:01
It's some of the same things that you post, and it just seems like and these are young women, and some of them were interns at that time. And I mentioned that because it seems like the same games that are being played in different generations. And with my sister, she was married for 20 something years, and when she got separated, she was separated for a while
Kalifa Thomas
@MayaDevi · 4:57
He did a lot of dirt. But now her ex and his best friend are my sons, and I'm happy about them because that's actually a proof. God coles us, and he wants us to be happy
Nothing is permanent. Nothing is forever. And so when our role in someone's life is over, it is better to leave the stage, right? When your role, when you have played your part in the play, you don't stick around on the stage anymore. You move on. You move on so someone else can come and play their role. You move on. So this person or the stage can learn newer lessons, can embrace newer scenes and scenarios in life
Swati Sharma
@Swatiselflove · 1:54
They were really taking me for granted for my simplicity, and because they knew it very well in their mind that she would not be turning away from us, because she was the one who was constantly on the lookout for good friends around her. So it was like I was so much drawn into a toxic relationship like this and I just could not find the way out. It was kind of a feeling in me that I would be left all alone. So I kept on sticking to those people
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 0:48
I know that certain friendships that have been a part of my life for quite some time are not always going to be a part of my life. It's like, you know these things logically, but it's like your heart still wants to hold on and not let go. So that was an excellent point. Thank you so much
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:18
So yeah, that fear of being alone, those abandonment fears, those were really huge for me. At one time, I did not want to think about existing in this world alone. I did not want to think about not having anyone. And so that was another reason why I would not let go of certain relationships is because I need you. I can't live in this world without someone. I can't exist in this world without someone. So, yes, I totally relate