It's different when you're trying to explain your two parent upbringing to somebody who's not had that. Just like I can't understand a one parent upbringing because I didn't have that. And so, yeah, it's different. And I didn't realize till I got older and became an adult how, I guess, unique my upbringing was because everybody around me was the same way. So I don't know
javon johnson
@motoblanco · 3:46
I guess I'd have to go do some research on that. But it's interesting that you said that you feel that your friends from single parent households seem to have an aversion to a male voice of authority. That's an interesting point because it reminds me of a documentary I watched some years ago about economics and the history of the black family. I think at one point the federal government sent out like social workers and sociologists back in the kind of study the black family and how they were doing economically
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:47
And if you have to do that just to keep your head above water, there is a sacrifice to the family. But I have been on both sides as a child. I was poor as an adult. I'm not poor, but I'm single, so I certainly understand it fully. So great topic of conversation. Thank you
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:12
And even kids whose mom's worked a lot, they're having to kind of parent themselves, in a sense, because your mom's not home. So you got to know how to fix yourself something to eat. You got to know how to get yourself up in the morning, get your school clothes together, get your lunch together, because your mom may not be home to do that, you may have to do it yourself
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:39
And I felt bad for the mom because I think she does this out of guilt. I think it's more so. And I had single mother friends that would do this. They would really spoil and lavish their children with things to make up for the fact that there was no father in the home and to kind of compensate or overcompensate for the lack of another parent being there, they would go above and beyond to spoil their children
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Luce Fonrose
@ilovelucee · 3:32
Over 90% of people were in two parent homes, were in a home where both of the parents were married. And most of the kids, all the kids that were pretty much well, I don't want to say all most, as I was in the process of saying, most of the kids that were acting out did come from two parent homes
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 1:55
And so I'm wondering if a lot of these couples are not making it past elementary school age for their children. Thus the reason why we see more divorces or single parent homes by the time you get to middle school. By the time you're eleven or twelve people that were married are no longer married. This is a thought. I mean, I'm sure we can all Google some statistics, so I can get into that later
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:37
So, yeah, I believe that as you get older, you do start to see kids that are living in two separate households with mom and dad and kids from different areas of town where they live. The single parent home is common. Like I'm saying, the single parent home wasn't common for me. For some kids, that was the norm. They didn't start going to school with kids that had moms and dads until they got older
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:35
I wasn't really privy to single parent households as a child. It wasn't until I became a teenager, and then some of the kids and some of the young women in the church started having babies. And then, of course, I had my daughter and my son. And it is a different lifestyle. It is a different world, even for me kids, even with me, with the way I am with my kids and then the way I was. There's a difference, right?
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:19
Like, my parents would have the occasional friend from church who was divorced, but most of their friends were married, had children around our age, and that was just the community and the culture that we were around all the time. So, yeah, it's definitely a reality check. And my sister became a single mother when she was 19, so she got to experience what it's like to not have two parents in the home