You kind of have a built in person in your marriage, provided you have a happy, healthy marriage and you're busy with children, you're busy doing family things. You don't have time to do, quote unquote, friendship stuff with people outside of that bubble. But what about those who don't have those built in relationships, who really, truly desire and need community in their lives and they're finding that they're coming up short?
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 5:00
So it's like our friendships are surrounded by, or at least it seems to me they're surrounded by dinners and karaoke and comedy shows and things like that. But if you don't want to do the thing now, you miss out on the people. I have planned to host things for two years since I've been in my house and haven't done it because hosting means the house has to be, to me, spickens being clean
Erica Jean
@HeyItsErica · 4:24
It's just that you have to put yourself out there now. It's not like when we were kids, when we were made to go to school. So you're around people. You have to join those church activities, join those cultural events at the library. You have to go visit those nice swanky adult clubs, mature clubs. You have to put yourself out there. So, yeah. Thank you for this topic, Tanya
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 5:00
You said some really interesting things when you said loneliness is reaching an all time, like an epidemic high in this country. And you know what's weird about that, Tanya? I mentioned something recently on the swell when I said I don't understand how I meet so many single people that's looking to get married, but they're not meeting each other. And I say that to make a parallel with what you're talking about on your swell. Loneliness is reaching epidemic
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:37
When you're in your teens and 20s, you're basically friends with people who are your age and maybe other black women, young black women your age. And you guys are kind of in the same place in life and kind of like the living single girls. Everybody's in the same age group and they're doing different things, but they're kind of in the same season of life, dating, trying to find the one, trying to navigate the world of independent living and all of that
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:20
And so I think that there is that false sense of connection, that false sense of community that being online has provided us. And I remember seeing this meme that used to float around on Facebook. It was a meme of a person's funeral, and at the funeral they had maybe ten people show up and in the background somebody's asking, well, what happened to all their friends? They had 5000 friends on Facebook, but in reality they didn't have any friends for real
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:41
They all seem to have very similar, if not the same values and morals. But why is this not bringing people together? I just don't know. I just don't know. Like, I just don't have an answer for that whatsoever. I have no answer for that. And only god knows at this point. It's one of those things that only god knows. Only god knows why single people are not coming together. Only god knows why