Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:51

Blaming bad behavior and choices on "being young"

And I'm starting to wonder if sometimes we use that as kind of a cop out. Instead of holding people accountable and responsible, or holding ourselves accountable and responsible, we pass things off on being young. We hear the stories of a lot of women who had children, you know, in their youth, and they were not married, and they say, well, you know, I was young, young and dumb. Young and dumb

#youth #choices #life #men #women

Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:33
There is some I just didn't know in youth. Now, could there be some I was selfish? Could there be some other issues? Absolutely. But there's also just a lot of things that we assume people know by the time they're 16, 1821, that there's no rule book in life. And some people simply didn't know it because they were young. So, good conversation. I think most of us, like 2020 is hindsight
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:43

@DearAuntyAng

We didn't have social media. We didn't have camera phones, we didn't have live stream. We didn't have none of that stuff. So if anybody should be upset about not being seen in their young prime years of life, it should be us. But no, it's the ones who are in their prime years of life who have access to camera phones, live stream webcams. They got the Internet, they've got YouTube, content creation platforms and things
Darrain …
@TheBriefOne · 3:12
Set it straight, as in it got to a point where you will put in a situation where even he wasn't given the ability to make bad behavior due to weight, maintaining the value of assets and masters that do not strictly belong to you. The power is in, I guess. Who is the judicator? If the judicator is the Internet, it's too cheap to be forgiven. You got a hundred thousand likes of a person saying, I like what you said
d f
@MrDee · 4:54
So when a guy, a guy can't say, a guy can be young and do some dumb stuff, he ends up in jail, or he ends up, you know, deceased, or, you know, different things, the world is a lot more forgiving to women than they are men. We can go through the exact same thing, and a woman, you know, either telling her story or saying, hey, this is why I act like this
Erica Jean
@HeyItsErica · 3:13
That is not fun. And it means something is seriously wrong with the person. Something is going on with that person. Like, who thinks of this stuff? It's immaturity. It's not. Youth is straight up immaturity, straight up ignorance and foolishness. Okay? Because now this is the. I'm sure there were more, but now this is the second person, second person of color who faked their kidnapping. And this is not good. This is not good at all
MJ Brewer
@Mommas_Jungle · 2:07
And for the people that are like, oh, she's too young. You know, it's, it's, we can forgive her. She's too young. That's ridiculous. Especially if she has a child that she's supposed to be an example to. That's what parents are. They're examples. So what kind of example is she setting for her child? I think these are all things that we need to think about in this type of a situation
MJ Brewer
@Mommas_Jungle · 0:19

@DearAuntyAng

You had me at eat tide pods. The rest of stuff, I was like, hey, I do TikTok. Hey, I do this. I don't do tide pods, but I think you made me laugh, like, four times during this. That's awesome. Thank you. I needed that
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:05

@TheBriefOne

It's like, no, what she did was completely unacceptable. It does not matter. I have yet since that time, heard any, any type of verification or confirmation that she has mental illness. And she was not even remorseful for her actions. She never once apologize directly to the first responders, to the citizens of her town, her state, to those in the, in the US that, you know, were invested in her return
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 1:53

@MrDee

She wanted attention. And as I was telling Angela, it's so amazing that in a world where you have so many opportunities to be seen, folks are still crying that they're not getting enough attention. I mean, you live in a world where you have live stream, YouTube, Ig, live Facebook, live TikTok, Snapchat. You've got all these different platforms where you can be seen, and yet you still don't feel seen. I mean, make it make sense
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:07

@HeyItsErica

So now for those black women that have gone missing, that have truly gone missing, what does that do for them? Who knows? All of these lying incidents could be pulling the resources away from those that are really missing to focus on these girls that are lying about being missing because they want attention from their boyfriends, want attention from their family, and they want to know who's going to miss me if I'm not here. And, you know, something happened to me, would anybody care?
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:46

@Mommas_Jungle

That helped you, somebody, I'm sure she had some help. Some people who helped you stage this because you want some attention. You want to know if you're missing, if somebody would miss you. You want to know if something happened to you. Would anybody care? You want to know. That's what it is. Attention seeking. And it's so crazy
Darrain …
@TheBriefOne · 2:45

@MsColes77

Look, I probably wouldn't even acknowledge you. Like, for example, like, I remember when celebrities only appeared in magazines and they only did articles in magazines. I was on the way. You knew? It's like. It's strange, but it's like I missed it, you know? Because then these people couldn't do that because they won't be reported, because no one care about you. Because people only care about who they were caring about by consensus
Jacquelyn Jeffries
@Nomad4EVER · 2:14

@MsColes77

But I'll probably still go back to motorcycle riding one of these days, just on the back. But, yeah, I mean, we are young, and that's what we do when they're young. When people are young, they do dumb stuff, and then when they get older, they're like, what the heck was I thinking? But it is what it is so glad that I'm the age I am now because I probably still be out there doing crazy stuff

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