And so they're under the illusion that women are waiting for them to come over there. Women are just waiting for these American black men to come to their country. And what they don't understand, in some cases now, there may be some cases where men are legit, finding love, true love, in other countries, and I'm not against that, but what a lot of men are discovering is that it becomes a sex tourism thing
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:44
They're fit, feminine, and friendly. I'm like, have you actually met some of these people, because some of them are a whole trip and a half. I got Jewish friends that listen, they are rough on their husbands. I could just name a culture and I can name a woman who isn't this soft, friendly, docile being that they think she is. So the men need to be careful and be wise in knowing that people are people. You can find good people anywhere
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:43
A lot of these American black men take their American dating ways to these other countries, and because they're not willing to be self aware enough to realize, okay, maybe some of my dating woes are coming from my own personality flaws and character flaws. They believe that an international woman is going to appreciate those same character flaws or something and be willing to tolerate whatever it is they do to these women
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 5:00
But even with this 90 day fiance thing, and as big as that brand is, you still don't see that many people really following through with marriage. And so to me, it's a case of the squeaky wheel gets the oil, because they do a lot of talking about the passport bros, and they always got something to say about stuff, except for when it comes to where's your wife? Ah
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:25
They hooking up with a lot of women, but ain't none of them really, I'm going to say none of them, but few of them are actually creating sustained relationships with these women that lead to either a serious relationship or marriage. It's mostly just how many Dominican women can I sleep with? How many Colombian women can I sleep with? Oh, look at them. Look at their bodies. Look at this
Erica Jean
@HeyItsErica · 4:46
So if you're going to these other countries to find women who can barely speak the language and poor and can't help out, don't be looking to her to pay bills. Don't be looking to her to do that, because those women in other countries, they're expecting men to be men. If you're going over there looking for a traditional woman, you bet she's looking for a traditional man. And we know exactly what tradition we're talking about
Erica Jean
@HeyItsErica · 1:35
If I was those other women, I would feel disrespected because these men are using language that suggest women in other countries are mentally slower or easier to use. In fact, I believe you and I talked about this. These men want women who don't even speak English. That way, they're not going to understand when they're being manipulated. So, again, black women do not care, because if someone really wants to go and do something, they would just go and do it
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 2:42
And so when you was talking, and honestly, every time I think about these passport bros, I think about that scene in that movie, like, if that's what you want, then they can have you. It really ain't no love lost, you know what I mean? If that's who you want to be with, if that's who you want to have in your life, then go ahead and have it
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:52
And these men know that. They know that. And so it's easier for them to control and manipulate these women when they're in such a vulnerable position to do so. And you're right. Bitterness. They're angry, and that's why they keep trying to push this in black women's faces
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:50
The men of this generation, these modern men, I don't think that they want to be the provider and the protector of a household, even if given the opportunity to be that, even if they had a wife who was willing to not work, stay home with the kids, support him as he goes out and earns a living and takes care of the family, I don't even think men today want that responsibility
Erica Jean
@HeyItsErica · 1:49
And like you said, in the prior generation, it was an expectation of men to do the majority of the work, the grunt work, and be the sole provider. But now today's men are like, they want to chill and relax too. I don't know if that's a good thing or a bad thing. I don't know
javon johnson
@motoblanco · 5:00
But I know one guy who married a woman from the Dominican Republic, and that whole thing just started out as a business. His initial interest in her was as a business partner to set up a distribution channel between the Dominican Republic and the US. And as time went on, two of them became a couple. But one guy I know, and he's the only one
javon johnson
@motoblanco · 3:17
Hey, sneaky again. Yeah. And as a final note to my post, as far as cultural differences, yeah, there are cultural differences especially. I see it with certain African cultures and Latino cultures. As far as how the women are socialized, I think with a lot of African and Latino cultures, the women are socialized to be, they're a socialized to kind of take a step back and let the man kind of set the tone and direct things and just steer the ship
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:38
That a lot of foreign women don't face because in other cultures, it's very normal to have a two parent household. And it's very normal for women to be taught to be submissive and to be friendly and to be soft and to be kind and not bring embarrassment to her husband or to their family and just focus on being a homemaker and taking care of the family
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:31
So I really believe that if we had the vast majority of women growing up in two parent homes, we would see a different type of black woman in the United States. Now, of know, women can overcome that. You know, there's. There are women that came from single parent homes that still got married and did not take on masculinity and all that stuff