Anytime we see things like that happening in our lives, we know that there's something we need to release, someone we need to release. And so does forgiveness mean that I have to reconcile with this person? Absolutely not. We don't have to reconcile at all. And that's why I titled this, well, I forgive you, but we don't have to keep in touch
Maybe I shouldn't say that, but the most important part is forgive and continue maintaining the relationship, because otherwise, what's the point of forgiving if you're not continuing the relationship? That's my biggest sticking point right there. And my other sticking point is I personally give people several chances in life in my relationship with them. If you hurt me the first time, fine. We can get beyond that. Forgive and forget. You hurt me the second time
Al Cosby
@Cosbyal4165 · 2:42
So after a while, you have to just sort of let it go, more so for your own mental health and just your well being altogether. Because if you hold on to it too long, that messes you up. And not only messes your brain up, but it messes up what's inside your heart as well. So again, I definitely understand and relate to this title, I forgive you, but we don't have to keep in touch. It's like, you know what?
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 4:03
I forgot the partner says, but no, you do not have to keep in touch with people. You surely do not. Surely do not. And I think that hanging around people actually brings up the hurt more than it does helping you let go
Swati Sharma
@Swatiselflove · 2:34
Then we have to gather ourselves, we have to find that courage in ourselves to forgive that person. And this sends out a very clear message to the other person that I'm doing a kind of a service, not just to you, but I'm doing more of kind of the service to myself. This is the biggest service that I'm doing to my mental, emotional and psychological well being. This is because I want to set myself again on a path that is far more peaceful
janice roman
@missedaseason · 0:48
Hello. Yes, I was talking to a friend the other day, and then I had asked my pastor and both of them, and now I do agree that it's not a one and done deal. So if someone really hurts you, it's not. You forgive them once and it's done. Every time the hurt or the feelings or the thoughts come back, you have to keep forgiving them in your heart. I don't know if you agree with that. I'd like your opinion
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:54
I can even see the people speak and say, hello, when you were talking about maintaining relationships, I can be cordial and say, hi, how are you doing? But no, we don't need to have a bond. We don't need to be bonded in any way. That bridge has been burned, and it's okay. There are sometimes in life we're going to burn bridges that we just won't be able to rebuild if the bridge is burnt
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 1:40
There's a popular saying that goes that holding unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. And that's really what it is. If I hold on to unforgiveness, I'm expecting it to affect you. But no, it's affecting me. It's not affecting you. You can repent and move on with your life. God forgave you and you've repented. Lord, I won't hurt anybody like that ever again. Okay, you're good
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:48
Hey, Keza, thank you so much. To your point about we don't have to forgive now, biblically speaking. Yes, we do. Now, I know everybody doesn't subscribe to the Bible, so there's that. But as far as those that are followers of Christ, the Bible says we have to forgive. In fact, our own sins can't be forgiven until we choose to forgive others
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:10
It's like, no, I can go to God and tent and I'll be in his grace again. You'll be the one that will have to answer for why you don't forgive. I'm going to be okay, but yeah. Thank you so, so much for your response
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:09
Hey, Janice, thank you so much for your response and your question. I go back to Jesus's response to Peter when he said 70 times seven. And of course, like I said, we know that's not the literal sense. It's not like once you get to 491, okay, you're free to do whatever you want to this person. It's like, no, but yes, we do have to forgive over, I think about marriage
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:31
If that's how you choose to live and that's how you want to do things and you want to continuously go through this cycle, you can go through it by yourself. And so, yes, I can forgive you, but no, I don't have to be in fellowship with you. I don't have to keep being around you. I don't have to keep exposing myself. And I'm trying to get the people around me to understand that, yes, I have forgiven
Shawna Kearsley
@OnAcornBay · 5:00
It requires me to have a conversation. It requires me to be vulnerable. It's a very vulnerable space, and it is a process. And thank you for helping me to get to this point in that process. This is really important. Swell. This is a very important one for me, and I'm really, really grateful. Thank you, my friend
Shawna Kearsley
@OnAcornBay · 4:59
And in that space of forgiving, based on this defining, what are we doing internally to get, what is the internal workings of the accountability piece of self? That was a little jumbled. But what is our accountability when we forgive? What are we doing there? Are we doing meditation? Are we writing journals? Are we talking to our therapist in order for us to forgive? So forgiveness is about us. It has nothing to do with the other person. So forget about the other person
