Ace. Well, family, I hope you're having a wonderful Tuesday. So lately I've been hearing a lot about women getting upset when men have standards. And I can see some validity in this statement. And I think I might have some reasons why. For one, as women grow up, we are not told that men have standards. We're not taught that men have standards. We're led to believe that men will sleep with anybody
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:00
And then what some women even do is in being upset with a man's standards. And like you said, it's usually the women that don't meet those standards. They will now, in turn, even feel free to shame the women who do meet those standards. So, for example, many men want a woman who's fit. They want a woman that weighs less than him. Or he might say, she's slim, thick, whatever he says
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 2:52
But then when a man doesn't fit what we want and we tell a man, well, you're not my type, or whatever we be looking like, why he mad? Well, why are you mad? Why are you mad then? Why are you mad at the man? I think that a man has every right to have standards, just like we have every right to have standards. If I don't meet somebody's little cup of tea, that's fine. Next
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
dee felton
@MrDee · 5:00
And so there's this new word or phrase that people are saying, and it's delusion. Women are delusional. Now, I'm not saying all women, but there's been a lot of enabling and there's been a lot of things that lead women to think that they're delusional. Women want to go so more so on facts versus feelings, and that's understandable because it's just what you see socially, it's the norm
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 4:37
Sometimes I'm a little slow when it comes to doing things, but I aim for a degree of perfection, so I'll do what I say I'm going to do, but a lot of times I focus on timing. But this is really good. And one of my issues that I do have, and I mentioned this before, and I just mentioned it recently, is women don't know what they want. Women don't know what they want. I'm not saying this is all women
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:59
And I guess it goes back to the whole thing of women being the prize, right? And so since a woman is the prize, whatever man she shows interest in, he just ought to be grateful that she's showing interest in him. No. And I read something. Where, somewhere on social media, somewhere where it said, women are the prize, but men are the gift. And I'm like, oh, boy, why can't we just be that?
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:09
So, yes, you're right, there is more freedom in dating when you get older because you're not bound by certain values and morals that would be necessary if you plan to join your life with someone or have children with someone and raise a family with them. You do need to have morals and values that align, and I think you need to have morals and values that align, period. But the morals and values change as you get older. They change as you get older
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:23
You. Hey, I agree with you. I've never been one that cared about men having a standard that I may not meet. Even when I was a heavyset girl, it never bothered me that some men weren't attracted to heavyset women. That never bothered me, that never hurt my feelings or anything. When I went on my weight loss journey, I did it for my own health. I wanted to be more comfortable in my skin. I was tired of shop in plus size clothes
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:24
Hey, so I was listening to your response while I was in the car, and you hit on something that was so good, I couldn't pull over because I had to be somewhere and I was already running behind. But you hit on something very important when you were talking about even how, even how the world in general views men as being a monolith. Y'all all like the same stuff. You don't really vary in tastes. You don't really vary in preferences
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:47
I'm convinced that these men out here are used to dating some very musty women because they act so shocked when they find out that you actually bathe on a daily basis. Now, I know there's been some content creators out here talking about they only bathe twice a week and all this other stuff, but no, I bathe every day and men act shocked. And I'm like, these women out here must really be gross
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:52
If you're the prize, that means that several women see the value in you and know that to be with you or to end up being your wife is going to change their entire life for the better. And so, yes, they know that guys like you don't come around like that. So you are a prize. But for all these men that are single, single. If you're the prize, then how come women aren't seeing you as a prize?
Tim Ellerbe
@Playuinkey · 4:51
How does she view the world? How does she view relationships? It depends on what it is. Are you going to raise children together? What does she think about work? What does she think about you working? And that's a huge one for me because one of my standards now is I'm building a music empire, I like to say, and I get told a lot by women I'm interested in, that I'm way too busy for them
EL Drake Smith
@Mrunique50 · 0:15
Immediately. Very nice piece. Don't mean definitely going to be some of your future swears. Yeah, very nice piece