He's got you somebody that may have more money than you've got. Maybe it's something you want to accomplish that's financially easier now because you have a husband that can kick in that extra money or at least pay some bills in the house so that you have more money freed up to do things. That's what women are desiring now. I'm not saying every woman, but a lot of women are desiring this now. They're tired of doing it by themselves
Shawna Kearsley
@OnAcornBay · 4:42
We're asking all the right questions in this relationship space, and then we'll figure out where we're going to find such people. Maybe we go to church or, I don't know where these folks exist. Probably why I'm still single. But grandma always said it's just as easy to love a rich man as it is to love a poor man. And I've done it both
Erica Jean
@HeyItsErica · 4:37
And if I wasn't married, I'll admit it would be harder. We were meant to work together and with each other, but everyone has to be on the same page. You have men out here who want to rotate women or who don't want to work to take care of a home. They actually want to see if you as a woman have your own car and good credit and things like that
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:05
But that's not a flex to tell people I can do bad all by myself. Yeah, you can do a lot of things all by yourself, but do you really want to? And so I remember back in the would say, the 90s, when women would declare that they don't need men, they want men. And I've seen that line stated in a lot of movies and stuff, where a woman turns to a man and says, I don't need you. I want you
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:25
And it's a shame, because those are the kinds of women they would end up with. They would end up with really nice, sweet girls, nice girls that have apartments, that have jobs, that have cars, good girls. And they would end up with these my cousins, who were low lives. They didn't do much. They didn't accomplish much. They couldn't hold a job. They never had their own transportation. They were still living with my aunt up until she passed
Shawna Kearsley
@OnAcornBay · 4:09
And I went through that, and it was not great. It was not great. And I also figured out by working in my community that it's much better to have a team and to nurture that team. It takes a lot of courage to be interdependent. To be interdependent. We have to work on ourselves. We have to be accountable, holding ourselves accountable to be our best selves when we interact with people. That's the challenge right there
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:28
I mean, what do you expect? You had a man in the house that was working and a mom at home taking care of us. We looked a certain way. We were clean. But for some reason, that wasn't good enough for her. And then when they divorced and she didn't have an education, she was forced to do, like, welfare or really minimum wage jobs. That's all she could qualify for. And so she didn't want that for her daughters
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:46
When you're a young woman, you can grow and you can take on those tasks with a little bit more ease because you're physically more able to do so. When you get older and you start wanting to have children in your forty s and stuff, you can do it, but it's more difficult because your body is slowing down a bit. And even the prophet Jeremiah is another biblical example of someone that God wanted to remain single because of the prophetic call on his life
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:57
Maybe they feared my mom's married, but maybe they feared that if something were to happen, what am I going to do? Where am I going to go? How am I going to take care of my kids? And they didn't want to see their daughters go through something like that. They wanted their daughters to be able to provide for themselves. And so, yeah, I understand the possible intent behind that
Shawna Kearsley
@OnAcornBay · 2:56
Warren Buffett talks about that, the family and all of that. And I think I'm always skeptical when a woman says I can do it all by myself. It immediately sends a message that there is something great that missing or that there was some tremendous hurt and that person is not at that point where they can break through and they need more time is what I generally think about that. Not for me to talk about how other folks tend to do that
Shawna Kearsley
@OnAcornBay · 3:03
Sustain a family life for a long period of time and you can sustain success for a long period of time. I thought that was really important. And not having a family or self proclaimed independent woman, I've often thought about that success for a long period of time. Sustain a family life for a long period of time and you can sustain success for a long period of time. At least your percentages of that just went right up. First things first
Al Cosby
@Cosbyal4165 · 3:53
One, well, mainly, like in regards to children that come into the world, I don't want to say vast majority. I'm just going to say some men are not doing that the right way. And then at the same time, you have some men that just choose not to do the work that's out there. They want people to cater to them and they're not bringing nothing to the table, which is why women had to step up