And we'll even throw things out there like you just never know what's happening behind closed doors. And that's true. We don't know what's happening behind closed doors in anybody's life unless we live there or unless they tell us. But why can't we just accept that some folks are just in a great place in life right now. And it's not up to us to decide how or why they're there
You may just want to sell the bustle. You probably don't want to go anywhere and you stuck. I guess that PTSD. It could be that. I don't think we are afraid of happiness, though. I think it's more so. You've been hurt so many times, it's just like, man, this is going to be the same thing again. But I think if you change your mind frame about it, you could probably overcome it nicely
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 3:21
You're. Thank you for inviting me. I think sometimes misery loves company. And so people, they see other people that are happy and living life and everything like that, and they just upset because they're happy and they not, you know what I'm saying? Other times it could because of unresolved trauma or unresolved issues, right? You may think you over something until you see something, and then you're like, oh, wow, okay
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 1:23
And I can't help it if you do love me, because that's your emotions. But no, I've never done that. The more happiness, the more I want. So bring it. Like, I want a happy household. I want a happy job. I want a happy and peaceful environment, and I have it
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 1:51
Hey, Terrell, thank you so much for your response. And you're right, when you've endured a lot of trauma, when you've had a lot of disappointments, those disappointments can follow you through life. And you're just so used to being let down. You're just so used to your expectations being not being met or your expectations just completely being crushed
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:03
It's simply the joy. His joy. That is your strength. And that is what presses you through the difficult times. That's why you can continue to keep laughing and dancing in the storm. God is so amazing. And so you are so right. Thank you so much for your input, as usual
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 1:55
But the problem is, society has made us believe that the way they feel is normal and the way we feel is abnormal. And it's like, no, it's complete opposite. The way we feel about happiness, about someone's joy, about someone's kindness is exactly how we're supposed to feel. Because those are positive emotions, and they evoke more positive emotions. That's what they're supposed to do. So thank you so much for your input
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 3:23
It's okay that you found somebody that you like and that likes you and that is doing the things that you like, right? That's okay. It's okay to be happy, right? And so I just had to kind of pep talk myself a little bit, and it didn't end up working out. But I learned a lot, right? I learned a lot about myself
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 1:54
So the husband I have now, I find in our relationship. Sometimes I still feel that way. Because of previous abuse with my past husbands, I'm not able to accept my present husband's goodness. So I'm working on it. It's a work in progress. We all have baggage. I hate they call it baggage because we're not carrying around a bag of stuff. We're carrying around a lifetime of stuff. So what else do we do? We pray about it
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:35
And I think that some of our joy is marred by just a feeling of unworthy, unworthiness feeling, as though good things aren't supposed to happen to people like me. Because we're so used to a pattern of dysfunction in our life, a pattern of abuse, a pattern of unloving and cruel behavior towards us that when good things happen, we just don't feel like we deserve it. Like, if we're not careful, we'll mark ourselves by the negative things that have happened to us