Why do we feel like they're not good enough and we deserve better? But better is not even looking our way. I wonder how many good relationships we would have if we would simply just be, I don't know, maybe a little bit more realistic about the types of people we attract. Or if you do desire a higher, quote unquote, caliber of man or woman, maybe there's some leveling up that we need to do. Maybe we need to get in the gym
Maurice Lekea
@malekea · 4:59
But I can say something is that when I was growing up, my attraction was more physical. I didn't care whether someone is unintelligent or not. It was not really that problem. As long as someone is too beautiful my way, the way I like, which I can't really describe in few words, it's an old set of elements that I like to see in a woman. But then I grew up, I have a kids and my kids are grown now
Maurice Lekea
@malekea · 1:39
Another thing I forgot to mention is that I'm not the type who think that everyone will like me. I just have to dress well, to be well built, muscles and things. I'm far from that. People have a right to choose their likes and dislikes. I don't expect every woman to like me or love me or like me. I don't expect that
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
john Patterson
@Murdock118 · 0:55
So different ones are attracted to either money or looks just depending a wise person would be attracted to somebody that can and simulate them intellectually, in my opinion. But it's just my opinion
Nidhin George 🔷
@geo_rhymes · 4:11
But that's mainly because we don't have that air of curiosity as much. We just suddenly jump from interest to attraction. But I think for women days there's an interest which leads to a curiosity. And they love being in that state of curiousness for a bit. So as long as the guy is able to hold the conversation and throw in a bit of curiosity around himself, the interest is maintained
Al Cosby
@Cosbyal4165 · 3:10
But interestingly, years later on in life, again, it's like I still feel a certain kind of way about what I like in regards to my type. But at the same time, it's like I'm not really looking at it in that sense to be with them like that anymore. Because although I was never with them, I had a chance to get to know just their personalities in general. So I actually did have a change of heart
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:01
But no, it's more complicated than that because maybe the people that would be interested in us don't have the qualities that we're looking for in a significant other. And so if they don't have those qualities, then it's not really going to work for us. So thank you so much
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 1:45
Hey, kayla, you know, relationships can be a scary thing. It's it's hard. It's hard to give your heart to someone. It's hard to open yourself up and be vulnerable to someone, too. And when you've done, it when you finally succeeded at doing so, and then you get hit with a sucker punch and your heart is broken, it's very, very difficult to want to try again
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 1:43
Hello, Maurice. Thank you so much for your input. Yes, we do have a type. I know a lot of people will say, I don't have a type, but, yeah, we do. There are certain attributes that we are attracted to, and those are certain there are certain attributes we feel like bring out the best in us. And so if a person has those attributes, we feel like it makes us better
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:18
Even if we are good women, and even if there might even be some mutual interest, if we don't feel like we'll measure up to that kind of woman, or if we feel like we're not on your level because of our own personal insecurities, then that will keep us from sharing that kind of information as well
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:23
And we're feeling all hurt over it because we're no longer getting those hey, beautiful text messages and a guy that seems to be really interested in who we are, even though we're not giving him any type of reciprocal response to that. And as I was telling another respondent, I think with men, the idea of men being interested in women that aren't really interested in them is more prevalent than women being interested in men who aren't interested in them
Maurice Lekea
@malekea · 2:39
Some people take a very long time just to make sure that they are on the right path in a solid ground. So again, it shouldn't be a responsibility of anyone. It should be our own responsibility. Especially when we grow older. When you like someone, go but again, you don't know if that person is already taking. And it can be a little harder when you make a step and they tell you no, I'm not free, I'm taking
But I've always been attracted to things that I couldn't have or that were bad for me. And I guess women are just part of it now, a little bit older and dating and all that kind of stuff. You got to like a lot of women that is not really meeting you on your level. But they want some superstar. The good girls want the one. So they're comparing you to a fictitious character that they made up in the head
Arthur Benitez
@Arthur_Dante · 4:57
I think that you won't regret it. I would give you this advice to you just go ahead and meet them. Have just a friendly conversation. Not even a day, just friendly conversation. It can be very brief, 10, 20, 30 minutes. If you get along, then maybe start another occasion. I wouldn't call it day, because the whole concept of date, it makes it very complicated
Al Cosby
@Cosbyal4165 · 1:22
But in regards to your reply to this topic about single, what happens a lot of time is that, you know, a lot of the single men that are replying this are more so the ones, I guess, who have been rejected more than, I'm going to say, two or three occasions. So they pretty much know how to answer this topic in the best form and fashion that they can
Luce Fonrose
@ilovelucee · 3:20
A lot of y'all want to somehow be accepted by people who don't care about you. And I think that's what it has to do with. It's like by being with somebody or by choosing somebody that doesn't want you, if you're somehow able to get them to change your mind, it's like a conquest. Yeah, it's like a challenge, an obstacle that you overcame