Hey, swell family. I hope your Friday is going great so far. So when I was much younger, I dated a guy who had a horrible relationship with his mother. He would disrespect her openly in front of me. He would cuss her out in front of me. He had a lot of anger and resentment towards his mother. Now, his mother was remarried to man that was not his father, but he would disrespect both of them. But definitely his mother
R. Porchia
@Block24Media · 2:01
You have to recognize that you haven't respected your mother in all these things or accept the fact that you haven't had a good mother or whatever the reasons. What I'm trying to say is there's no excuse for carrying that over, and there's definitely no excuse for disrespecting your mother. Right? You can have some level of discontent if she didn't raise you, or some level of discontent if she is running the streets
Maurice Lekea
@malekea · 5:00
There are also kids who can get mad at the mom, but they still have a respect. He said they have a respect for the mother for what she has done and vice versa. If the father also has done something, they will also blame the father but still love them. But there's some kids they cannot forget. They cannot forget miss the mother. Neither the mother nor the father. Whoever was at fault, they will be mad at a person for a very long time
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Because I know that, I just believe that in my heart that if he loved his mother that he would love me. Because that meant like you just been saying he didn't have a healthy relationship with his mom and he knows how to respect women and treat women with love and honor and he wouldn't put his hand on them. Because previously, before I met my husband, I had been in abusive relationships
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:04
And I would have preferred if your mother was that bad, don't be living in her house and don't be cussing her out, right? So if I met a guy, he was somewhat estranged from his mom, and he's like, I see her once a year, make a quick phone call, that's it. I would respect that more than a guy that's all in her face, cussing her out
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:58
I think there's always thank you for inviting me to this. I think there's always exceptions to everything, but in my experience, the way that men have treated their mothers, they have treated me pretty good for the most part. Um, like you said, some men are just womanizers and they can't help themselves. My daughter's dad, my youngest daughter, her dad, him and his mother had a very good relationship
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 3:13
You. I meant to comment on this earlier. I think I was in the middle and every time I tried to comment, somebody kept calling my phone. But I do think that the way that a man treats his mom has a lot to say about how he would treat his woman. Reason being is because a mother is a son's first love. She is who teaches him to love and also teaches him how love feels
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 1:38
Hey, SIS. Thank you so much for your response, and I apologize for my very late response. Thank you for your transparency and just being honest about your relationship with your son and how certain things that happened in his youth affected y'all's relationship and affected him later on in life. You made an interesting point when a lot of parents do say things like, well, why didn't you tell me? But for a child to articulate their feelings, most of the time they act out
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:39
I don't know if that's even possible, because we see young girls that get abused by men, and it affects the way they see all men. Even if they want to believe that there's some good men out there, that every man out there is not a monster that's trying to sexually violate them, it's going to affect the way they see men. So I don't think that a man can really separate his feelings for his mother from the way he feels towards women a whole
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:06
But and then, too, you do have men that grew up in rough, difficult households with damaged relationships with their mothers, and they really strive to be good men. Although, like I was telling Angela, I don't think that you can really compartmentalize or separate your feelings towards your mother from your feelings towards women as a whole. I don't think you can separate the two. I think that eventually they will overlap