It's very difficult to find those kind of friends, but I think sometimes we just write it off because we feel like, okay, well, I got more friends. It's different from a romantic relationship where it's like, okay, this man was my man. He was my only man, and now he's gone. I don't have a man
Swati Sharma
@Swatiselflove · 2:33
It was like the beginning of a new phase of your life where you can always cherish those golden moments that you spent with that lady. And she had so many beautiful memories that she left behind with you. And you can always treasure them and keep you happy all the time. Whenever you want, you can bring them back. And she's never going to make you feel sad now because she always tried and made sure that you healed somewhere and you lived your life to the fullest whenever she was around
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:22
And so that did help me to grieve that relationship. But, yeah, it doesn't matter what type of relationship it is. Brother, sister, friend, cousin, romantic. It. If you're in a relationship with someone and you really care for that person and then you're no longer in relationship with them, it does hurt and you do need time to get over it
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 4:57
Hey, Ms. Coles, first, before I start saying anything, I want to commend you for acknowledging that, you know, you did miss your friend and y'all, Sharma. Something was special because a lot of people, they get mad and all of a sudden they turn on their friends. So that is true. That was true friendship. And I can actually relate to you in some way because it is true that we sometimes bond over trauma in relationships. We bond over something similar
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 1:00
Maybe God placed her in my life for that reason, just to walk through those seasons with me. And now that those seasons have passed, maybe her assignment in my life is done. And so thank you for bringing such a wonderful perspective to that, because that is something that we often fail to do. We often fail to just feast on the memories that we have with someone and feast on those good times and not allow them to be overshadowed by the fact that this relationship no longer exists
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 1:37
It was so wild because we did nothing to these people. But, yeah, it's amazing how these friendships, these real friendships you thought you had can turn fake real fast. So, yes, I totally agree with everything you said, and thank you so much
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 1:40
Hey, sis. Thank you so much. Yes. Real friendships, true friendships, are very, very hard to find. And as we get older, we start to realize that, you know, when you're young, you just, everybody's your friend. I used to do that in my 20s. Like, everybody was my friend. You know, we hung out once
Luce Fonrose
@ilovelucee · 4:58
Like, there are certain people or certain places that I still have a hard time being around, not because they did something to me, but because they were around when something traumatic did happen to me. And I'm still working through that. So I get that. But I don't know, maybe that's something that I don't know how you feel like, I don't know if you'd be open to catching up with her again