Khadijah H
@Mindsetmatters2 · 5:00
A friendship that will never be the same
Like, we're out doing our thing, you know, we are going to parties, you know, campus parties and, you know, hanging out, you know, in the recreation room, you know, just doing college stuff, you know, no biggie. So the other three ladies, they would do whatever they do, go out on dates, and they would come back home. They didn't have, like, steady, really, people that they were going out with
Now I don't know if you're still with this guy, but the friendship was basically fractured over another friendship you started to develop. And no matter if it's a male, female, we know the dynamics of male friendships or male, whether you're going together or whatever, are a little different. But when you go off and do something new and kind of separate yourself from what you were doing before, the the people and places and things are no longer, you know, a priority
I can easily understand why your best friend felt the way she did, but back to the boy, I don't know if you're still with this gentleman, but if you're not, your friendship with the person that your BFF is fractured over something that's not even that's not even relevant anymore and I don't know where your friendship is. Now, I know you said it's not like what it used to be, it's damaged. But this is my feeling
Khadijah H
@Mindsetmatters2 · 4:37
Like, there are other people that came from the same town we came from. So there were other people around, right? But I'm really, really trying to understand, but the way you came at me, the things you said, I'm just like, Whoa, wait, what the h***? We almost came to blows. That's how horrible it was
Khadijah H
@Mindsetmatters2 · 4:50
Well, that friend comes to me because I'm the one that listens to her, and I can go to her. So she's been in the middle of this for years. And so there was something else that happened even after we moved in together. That's what I'm struggling with right now, because I feel like ever since that happened on campus, that she never really cared for me the same, because she allowed and no, by the way, I'm not with that guy
I get those questions. I don't know what it feels like because my mama didn't ban me. But there was one episode that I completely despised her for. They were on the show, and she had the cameras go she went knocking at her mom's door and demanded that she come out in front of the cameras. And I'm like, Girl, are you crazy? You don't have a relationship with your mother, so now you're going to put her on blast again?
We're not discounting her pain, but her pain does not give her the right to hurt others. There's no justification to continue to hurt other people when you know you have an abandonment issue, right? So I hope you guys can work it out, and I hope you can come to a crossword of okay, do I continue or do I just back off for my own mental health? Thanks for allowing me to speak on it
Khadijah H
@Mindsetmatters2 · 4:50
And if she ever wants to come and have a conversation, I will be open to that, but I am no longer going to be the one reaching out, or rather, having this bother me. But however, with that being said, there's also another friend of mine that is doing the exact same thing that Kendra, you say, is doing some childhood trauma. Her mom was kind of cycle. Her mom was kind of gone