I can get down with this. This resonates. This is me as a mother, valuing my children, trying to raise healthy, whole humans when the world is quite harsh and there's a lot of hurt and ongoing trauma that I can't necessarily prevent, but I can protect them. How can I protect them? So this really resonates. When you put value on yourself, your space, your time, your work, that is what drives setting good boundaries. Your cup will not be empty
Ginger Rogers
@MamaNikyaw · 5:00
That's why I guess practicing them in basic and common settings is so much more beneficial because when you are where you flipped your lid, you know how to handle process without needing that cognitive piece. I don't know if I'm making any sense right here, but the point is I'm realizing I have not had compassion for myself. And I think other people notice that because they often say, be good to yourself, ginger, or be easy on yourself, Ginger
I don't know if this will offer anything, but just in case, it's an analogy I like to use a lot. And I think fits when it comes to boundaries. And that is of the putting your own oxygen mask on first before helping others when you're on a plane. And that idea, to me, in a weird way, fits with boundaries. Because when we can put in some ways, I think there's borders, right?
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Ginger Rogers
@MamaNikyaw · 5:00
Because I come from a collectivistic culture, I've really shifted a lot of my approach where, yes, respect for others, but what is self respect? And we explore those, and this is how I'm relearning or unlearning different things is through my relationship with my children and what I want best for them and realizing that I also deserve that. And how am I applying that? Because we know what we're exposed to. We can give what we have, right?