I don't mean it in a very negative way, but because kids and children are not focused on themselves, they don't see the world, they only have a reflection of themselves. The world is all them in that kind of experience. And then when trauma happens, then they start to experience more abandonment and more rejection and more exploitation and then they start to believe that they deserve it because they are bad. And then they naturally develop this response to blame themselves for anything that happens to them
But no one really talks openly about the trauma that that grieving partner really goes through. Right? You're almost always asked to hush it up, throw it under the carpet, and pretend that it doesn't exist. Right. And I can totally relate to this. I'm definitely not that old, but been through a hospitalization experience which almost took my breath on my deathbed
Keerthi Kodukula
@keerthi2706 · 4:57
So that can cause a lot of traumatic symptoms, stress response symptoms, sometimes it can also be and after the person passing, it can be that the individual is experiencing these feelings of abandonment in connection with the person who's passed. And then there's this increased feelings of isolation and the fear of additional loss. And these symptoms are pretty similar to what grief looks like. So it's important to understand trauma versus traumatic grief. And just grief by itself