Ava K
@Learningtobeme · 3:32
Pain/Disappointments - 1. What is Pain for you(Good/Bad) 2. Do you use your pain or the pain uses you?
This is teaching me what I need to and what I not need to accept in future times in regards with relation and then use that pain to make sure that I improve myself as an individual as far as setting boundaries or as far as setting right expectations and at the same time not being bitter. So these are the two questions. What is pain for you? Is it good or bad or both? Vice versa?
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:50
What I do is I look inward to say okay, this is causing me some type of pain, a degree of pain, pause, concern, et cetera. Fill in the blank with whatever word best to anyone who's listening. I then hold up the mirror to myself, literally and figuratively hold up the mirror to myself and say okay, look inward. Why is what happening external outside of me causing a reaction or a response inside of me?
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:02
And so I am sharing that personal example to show like those are the steps I had to take to figure out that pain point. Okay. It's a trauma response. And also looking inward. Okay, what did you do? Okay. If you know full well you cannot have done anything differently, knowing that you have not done business with this person in this capacity before, then you're in the clear. Or if there is areas of opportunity, then what could I have done differently?
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Ava K
@Learningtobeme · 1:36
And kudos to you and also to your significant other for accepting this, the choice that you made that let's go ahead and download the WhatsApp and then just have the communication done through that. So basically both of you are on the same track of fighting the problem and not fighting amongst yourself. So yeah, definitely. Otherwise that again leads to further getting into the mode of feeling the pain. That why did this happen? I already did this and that. So I really appreciate you responding on this