Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 1:21
I just want to know because I've heard a lot about that. Not that I'm going through any of that, but it's interesting that there is a year at all or years that is just really tough in a marriage. I think a marriage is tough, period. For me, this is number three. So it takes work. It really does. It takes work, it takes dedication. It takes love, it takes communication, it takes honesty, it takes sacrifice
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:03
But there's still a good bit amount of people who are following that traditional schedule, if you will, of this age. And maybe they're post college or post community college or the first two years of working post high school and this is their high school sweetheart or just someone that they have dated for a while, their late 20s, early 30s in that age range and they're getting married
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 2:33
But then I kept thinking, you know what? I do want his last name. And in order to have his last name like that, I need to be married. If something was to happen to him, they give it to the wife. Not a committed partner, not necessarily. I mean, sometimes they might, but in most cases they do not. So I wanted the legality of it. So we decided to get legally married
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:23
And then once that time period passed, then she was able to get like a temporary it was like a temporary claim to the estate and then that had to expire, or she had to do another layer of paperwork before the expiration date of the temporary status to get full claim of the estate. And that was after 41 years. 41, you guys. 41. Not 14, not four, not zero. 441 years of marriage. Legally married. Legally married
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 0:56
It's. Thank you so much for the comments on this. Well, that's very valuable information and whomever is listening, I hope that you take that to heart. I'm going to be doing that myself. I have a will, but he doesn't, so we need to get that taken care of immediately. But anyway, no, I didn't marry him just so I could just have his name
I thought I responded to this. I think I did, but I didn't post it. And I mean, like, days ago. But it's important. It's very important. This is something that you really can't overlook and not even saying, you know, I'm saying everything is great. Your marriage is going exactly the way you want it to. And it like they say, first it gets good, then it gets real good, then it gets real
You know your friend, you know what's going on. You know what he's doing, you know what she's doing. It's time to let it go. With this one, you got to hold on. You got to hold on because it's tough. And I mean it can be easy as well as you all get along. But you might be talking about the 10th year of your marriage when it starts happening
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 1:17
So this would be an interesting conversation to have and will be had and I'm going to try to stay focused. I love the fact that you said to hold on because there are so many times in a marriage where people can feel like giving up because things are not working out or they're not exactly what they pictured they would be. But life is like that. It's not all going to be what you picture it would be. But accepting that fact is the part that's hard
