Good morning, my swellcast family. And today I'm going to be continuing on our series Love Shouldn't Hurt. It is a new series that I am bringing into Swell, and this is episode two. And my purpose behind it is to empower women and men on how to recognize the difference between relationships based on power and control and and those based on equality, respect and trust
Hey, SIS, this is Mike. What always amazes me with these situation, with these situations is that the amount of grooming that has to go on and is it an inherent evil? Did they see somebody do this? How do they know how to do that? How do they know when into to start tearing down your defenses or your esteem? I understand it, but it amazes me. It really does
You. And I say, don't forget to basically say that, yeah, it's okay to change the name on the person's phone to Pain if you did finally get away from them. You know what I mean? So that way, when they call you, you don't see their name, you see pain. So at least you know that you've made a conscious decision to pick up and feel this and keep feeling it until you can't stand it no more
Charity Cheresney
@HIZCRAZY78 · 5:00
What people don't realize is that, yes, there is grooming that does go on in these relationships. Me being a survivor of domestic violence in my last marriage, there is grooming that does go on in the relationship, but it's not something that us as the victims supposedly in the relationship ship I don't see myself as a victim. I apologize. I see myself as a survivor. We don't see the grooming happening
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 3:24
And when you don't fit in the norm with all about them, all of a sudden everything is your fault. You didn't do it right. You didn't say it right. You hurt my feelings. It's not about them hurting you. Even though they're hurting you with words or hitting you, they are still hurting you. But according to them, it's a reprimand. It's not anything that you should be worried about
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 2:15
We don't see one because we don't want to. But when we do open our eyes and see them for the master manipulators that they are, that's what gives us strength. God gives us strength to be able to leave. So thank you so much for commenting and in the next couple of weeks, we're going to be talking about why it's not your fault, and I'd appreciate if you could come back and listen and chime in again. Thank you so much
