Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 4:44
#VoiceYourOpinion | They Pissed me off, but Check your temper sometimes it can blind you! 😡🤬 #LadyFi
Let them do the same. Be a good mom. By being a good mom and letting them go right now. They'll contact you. They already love you, and you've taught them everything that you know. Now let them go and experience what God has for them, whether it's a lesson or whether it's some luxury. But either way, I had to check my temper because my temper was keeping me blinded to what was real
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:54
She said, so what you need to remember is you always take care of you first. You fill your interest first. You do what you want to do first. You please yourself first, because that is going to make you an exceptional mother in comparison to the people that do it backwards, because they're told backwards, do everything for the kids first, put yourself last
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 1:20
Thank you so much, Jl. You know, I listen because I know that they will never lie to me. And they want to see me happy, but not just happy. They want to see me doing what I used to do before I had kids living my life. And I did do it backwards. I gave everything to my kids. Now I have nothing. That's how I feel, that I have nothing left left. But I do have something left. I'm still here
Gary Brown
@garyplaysbone · 3:02
Oh, my gosh. Hey, Evelyn and JL, this is a really cool discussion. When you're talking with your brother, your siblings, your parents, and get advice, and of course they have your back. They're giving you great advice, and you at first don't take it very positively, but later realize, hey, this is a really great feedback I wanted to share
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 2:08
I mean, your new hobby career, whatever you want to call it, it's you. I hope that it goes very well. And. And I love music, so, yeah, thank you very much
Gary Brown
@garyplaysbone · 2:25
I don't know if it's a hot or a career, but I spend a lot of time on music, an incredible amount of time on music. And it's almost like I feel like my family wants an explanation or they want to make sense of it. Like, is this your full time job now, or are you going to quit your job? What's going to happen in five years? Believe it or not, that was a question that one of my parents asked me
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 0:29
I love how you say you haven't labeled it as anything yet. It's just something you do, something you love. I love that. And I love also that you said, you know what? You're not even going to try to offer them an explanation because why? This is something you want to do. You're a grown man. You should be able to do what you want to do if it makes you happy, right?
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:53
I approach it from a space of confidence, and I know it's done. And so even though she won't admit it, she's learning a lot from me. And I understand that a lot of what she won't admit comes from a space of ego, because I'm the mother. I've had the longer walk with Christ. I'm the oldest, so on and so forth. But again, that's not for me to have to deal with. That's her cross to carry
October Selfcare
@Selfcare · 2:25
Right? That means sometimes when my kids do something that I don't agree with, I understand that. Like your mother and brother said, don't want to have to fault, but don't have to learn their mistakes. And sometimes we as parents, we don't want them to learn the mistakes that we learn through in our trials and tribulations. And we try to be the bridge for our kids
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 1:13
I wish the pain would stop, but I know one day it will. They're good girls. They really are. And smart. I just miss them. I miss them a whole lot. But thank you so much. I really appreciate
October Selfcare
@Selfcare · 3:20
And it's very hard when you see your kids as a baby and you used to wipe their butts or you used to talk to them and they used to run to you and love you, but when they'll grow up, we don't know how to differentiate that because you remember them as a little baby or a little kid that you used to see smiling at you. Now they're doing all the opposite, and that's the way of life
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 2:00
And I'm grateful for that. It just worries me because I'm not worried about are they smart? I'm just worried about how smart the world is against them. But I'm going to have to understand that this world is not mine. It belongs to God. And the same protection that he allows me, he's going to allow Anika and Akoya. I have two daughters. They're 17 and 19
