Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 5:27
#TeachSwell | Love Shouldn’t Hurt💔 | Always being looked at as a victim.
And if they need additional help and they will, not just with getting away from the person, but the memories that you have, the things that trigger you. It could be music. It could be a smell that triggers you, a certain word, you lifting up your hand in their direction too fast. They will need help with that. And they need to be surrounded with people that are respectful, that people that don't judge them, people that want to uplift them and protect them
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:54
And so I understand when you don't want to tell people because you don't want to seem like you're a victim and you just don't know how to choose. I like when you say you're not a victim nor a survivor. I like that, because, again, I identify with that even when it comes to my son. And I don't know if I've ever mentioned this here on swell. If not, here we go
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 1:39
But you do have to be careful, like you said, who you tell, when you tell, how you tell them, and what you tell them, how much. You don't have to offer everything. You can offer just a glimpse, if that's what you want to do. But I get on here and I say it, because there are so many people that can't say it, won't say it. Too scared, too afraid
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:44
I had a person, a friend from college that I hadn't spoken with in a long time, that messaged me that signed up for an exercise program. And she doesn't even like exercising, but she did it because she was truly concerned for me. And that was her only way to connect with me that she felt comfortable with without having to bring up the domestic violence or what I was going through or experiencing frequently. And she admitted it towards the end, but I was truly appreciative
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 3:43
And I am forever grateful to her because she is the reason why I was able to really one of the catalysts to help me catapult my healing journey and my healing journey program, the healing out loud daily program that I've created. It's a virtual survivor support group program
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 1:15
Thank you so much for responding to this. Well, isn't it a good thing that sometimes the people that help you the most are strangers? I've had that I've had a lot of strangers at work or people I ran into that didn't even know me help me more so than my family did. My mom was always there. But you yeah, I mean, some things you just can't tell your parents
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 1:01
There are so many of us in this world, whether it be men or women, that are slightly damaged in regards to things that have happened us and around us. But it's good to be able to talk it through. So thank you, ladies. I appreciate you and all that you are. Bye
