Kwa NateKo
@kwa · 4:53
Noticing More
But literally, like men, women seem to universally think are attractive. I'm like, okay, I did not get that. But I said, there's one guy. If, if I were to pick anyone that stood out to me, there is a guy that is just because of who he is and how he carries himself, I could tell he doesn't look ugly. His features look healthy, at least in the face. I guess you could say he's kind of handsome
Kwa NateKo
@kwa · 1:41
I think one of the big things is when you're noticed for something like that, or something in that way, it means that people are appreciative of what you have to offer. In a sense that is, regardless of how you appear, it's kind of what you are. And I've heard it said this way, like if we bring it back to male and female. Somebody once said that women want to be appreciated for something more than sex
So how to hint to the deeper stuff to make people interested without boring them is a whole difficult matter or difficult thing to achieve, I'd say so. That's my rambling. I warned you. I'm really tired. I read a lot today. A detective story by Donna Leon happening in Venice. It's nice, but not fantastic. And I played Scrabble and I also walked around in nature in the snow. Up here, 1300 meters high
Kwa NateKo
@kwa · 4:40
I mean, as far as really figure out people without small talk, it doesn't mean you exclude the small talk at all. It just means the small talk doesn't need to be necessarily to sell something about yourself. And you just have enough to learn more as you go. So one thing about me, like I click with people very easily and very quickly. This is really a natural thing for me. And I don't mean on a not so superficial level
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:38
And instead of me trying to peel back those layers to get into who they really are, I stopped at that surface level, you know what I mean? And so I'm like, man, I don't want to do that anymore. I want to notice more about them. I want to see more about a person. I think that's why I like this swell app so much. Because you don't see anybody unless somebody posts a picture of themselves. You don't see them
Natasha Nurse
@DressingRoom8 · 3:03
And my biggest issue with human connection is that I find life to be super performative in that people say what they say and do what they do, but there is genuinely a lot of misalignment between what people are saying and how they feel, what people are doing and what they really want, what people are presenting themselves compared to who they really are on the inside
Kwa NateKo
@kwa · 3:59
It's nothing necessarily more. What they do is what they do. And in the moment, us, like human beings who need to use other human beings to get where you want. You can use what you need from them but as far as seeing them it's something I don't think you force and you don't come with the expectation that you're going to get to see all that immediately. That is never my expectation with people
Natasha Nurse
@DressingRoom8 · 4:10
You. I think you raised a couple of things. First, patience. It's the name of the game. So, as a parent, one would think, oh, yeah, like, you've mastered patience. Try again. Not this gal, not this parent. I don't want to say not this lifetime, but I've been unnaturally impatient my entire life
