So I haven't used this application in a while, but I made a swell on here about how it's hard for me to form friendships with people and it was pretty therapeutic. I actually got responses which I wasn't expecting, and surprisingly, they were all very nice and helpful. I enjoyed listening to all of them, but I never replied because I was too nervous. I think making this and posting it will be more helpful than unhelpful for me, so I'll give it a go
Only you know what your heart wants and no one else will ever know that. Not your parents, not your best friend, not even your partner. But it sounds to me like your dear friend has a very good understanding of what love is. Love is not attachment. Love is freedom. And there's freedom and then allowing you to feel and be at whatever stage you need to be in
Love can be, I guess in a monogamous relationship, love can be for one person, but it can only survive when there's support and community that is so important. So I don't think you should blame yourself at all. And I'm just really hard decision. And then the second thing is my parents disapproving of partners who are outside of my race who are non male, I guess. And sometimes I have to keep it secret and just let it go
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Kaylapillar
@Kaylapillar · 1:09
I needed that reminder since too often I get into these headspace's of, oh, it's either all or nothing. Either I do this now or it will never happen. Thank you. Anyways, I hope you have a great life. And thank you for saying that you'll check on me. Oh, my gosh. It's so nice. Thank you. Bye
Kaylapillar
@Kaylapillar · 1:36
Hi. I'm sorry for not responding sooner. I'm one, two it's just like I guess I have issues talking to people. I get too nervous, so I end up, like, avoiding it for for a long time. And then by the time I actually summoned the courage, it's too late. Yeah. Anyways, I just wanted to thank you because what you said truly had a really profound impact on me