Now, obviously, this is going to be different for everyone's gender roles, et cetera, but this is really focusing mainly on women and men cis relationships. I do see this happen often in gay relationships as well, but typically this is going to be a cis relationship. So don't misconstrue that part here
Michael Knight
@MK1981 · 3:43
And I think telling women that it's because of the patriarchy, which I don't even know what that means anymore at this point, because every time I hear about the patriarchy, I think about who are we talking about? Because it kind of excludes a lot of different kinds of men. And we're not just talking about cis heterosexual men versus LGBTQIA plus people racism factor. Like me as a black man, I don't have the same societal benefits as someone actually as anybody
Jennifer Ann
@ApocalypsePuppy · 4:57
Women are not these little delicate creatures that need to be taken care of. Now, maybe the man in the relationship does make more money. That's not every relationship, obviously. I know some women that they do make more money, and I have a couple of friends that they kind of laugh when they say it, but they have house husbands
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:39
But you're expecting me to come home and be the nurturer and all of that to the children, even though I just have to go out here and work 8 hours and I'm going to have to get up and do it again tomorrow because we're 50 50. That's why it's so important before you get into a relationship that you have a really clear, financial, really clear picture of what this is going to look like
Michael Knight
@MK1981 · 3:08
Hey, I just wanted to respond on what you had to say because I found it interesting. So allow me to push back. Right. Like, I think, you know, every couple makes a decision for what works for them. But I think we really have to start steering away from this idea of, you know, men taking care of the house because it's never, we don't live in that world anymore. Like, that's just not where we are at financially
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:23
Hey, thank you so much for your response. And I'm going to push back a little bit here, too. I noticed that you said that every couple has to do what works for them, but then you kind of contradicted that by saying that we have to steer away from the idea that the husband takes care of the household and stuff and we don't do that anymore. But I'm interested in wondering where in society does nobody do that anymore?
Michael Knight
@MK1981 · 3:05
And I think I'm just beginning to realize the older I get, it is incumbent upon me as a man to actually speak out and speak about these things, because even if we have examples of men who are kind of, like, taking on a lot of the financial burden, it is a huge burden. And I think the reason why we don't see it as that or we don't really talk about that is because men are socialized not to talk about their problems. Ann