You. I was born in 1950 to a woman who was born of an irish immigrant and a scottish immigrant in New Jersey. She grew up going to the bar with her father and soon became an alcoholic like him. This is a picture of her when she's probably about 16 years old. And the man next to her, I believe, is my father, but I'm not sure. She got pregnant and she gave me away. No paperwork like you
Jeremiah Myer
@Jeremiah73 · 4:56
It's. I had no idea that one of my affairs had led to a child being born. And I feel like I'm no better than my birth mother. We've met a couple of times, and she's a wonderful person. And she came out good and turned out good, I should say. She came out good, of course. And I asked about her mother, this woman I barely knew, but somehow produced this wonderful person with how she was. And she's doing okay
And again, I can offer some grace and understanding. Of course, there's some things that I can't excuse. And if they were alive today, I would not. What's the word? Reconnect. I don't know why I'm struggling for that word. I would not reconnect with them. But my heart is more open and more accepting, expansive towards them than it was
I'm sure that if you would have found out, you would have done the right thing. But if she didn't have the childhood that you had, if she had a good childhood, and she's a good, well adjusted human being, and she doesn't hold it against you, and life is a complicated mess, and we make a lot of mistakes, and we can't control anything. And you seem like you're a good human being, Jeremiah, and I think that it
Missy Jones
@lemrjane · 4:10
And I think that plays a little bit of role why I get so upset so fast. Because me and my brother went through a lot as children. We would hide behind an old burn heater while my daddy drugged my mama through the halls of where we lived and would beat her. I watched my daddy threw a cat upside the wall and beat its head in. Yes, sir, I did. Yes, sir, I did. And it damaged me. Yes, it did
But just, I wish you all the best, and maybe it'll help you to think that your birth mom knew she wasn't in the right place to bring up a child, and she wanted to give you a better shot at life. And she didn't know how to go through an adoption agency or how to go about it, so she did what she thought was best at the time. Anyway. Jeremiah, thank you. And I included a picture of my birth mom in this. Swell
