And a lot of them are married now, and a lot of them are having kids. And I'm not saying like, I'm trying to jump the gun or rush anything. That's not at all what I'm getting. But I feel like I was disserviced and put at a disadvantage when it came to dating. In high school, I had a few flings, situationships. I wouldn't say they were very stable. They weren't real, like boyfriend girlfriend relationships
Cheryl Dennis
@Lavendermenace · 4:29
And I found somebody in my. Almost my junior year of college that had similar ideas to me and wanted the same things I wanted. And I thought that's what it took. Right. I didn't understand the fire inside me. Ten years post divorce from that same person I just talked about, I've discovered the fire inside me, and it's taken a long time to get here
Isabellaxsabrinaa 🩷
@IsabellaSabrina · 4:50
I don't know whether my parents would get it because I've had multiple people talk to them, and they still don't get it. But thank you for choosing to do and be better for your kids. That's awesome. As someone who wish they had that as a child, I want to say you're doing very, very good. Who cares what anyone says about your parenting style?
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Cheryl Dennis
@Lavendermenace · 3:43
I appreciate your compliments about my parenting style and how I've changed it from my childhood, but what I've realized is that some of it was reactionary. Right? And reactionary parenting is not always the way that it should be. No, that's not what I mean to say. Reactionary parenting is sometimes just as bad as doing what your parents did because you turned out okay. I think it's the opposite extreme of that continuum
Isabellaxsabrinaa 🩷
@IsabellaSabrina · 4:31
Adults always have the final say, respect your elders, that type of mindset. And when you transition from being in the Caribbean your whole life to America, which is very westernized and parenting is very. On a spectrum of various, like, how involved, how not involved a parent is, whatever. I'm gonna try to take what you said and try to implement that in my life. I currently
