Mental Wellness Stories
@hope · 1:51
TRAUMATIC EVENTS | #TellYourStory - please share a Transformative moment when you felt a shift from trauma to feeling a little better
And although trauma can be repercussive and show up again and again, I think we just get tools over time, and these tools are really helpful to us. So in the spirit of that, I wanted to do a request to have any stories told that are about transformative moments that you felt a shift from the trauma you were experiencing to feeling a little better
Kim Soliz
@apianogirl · 4:57
I mean, not everybody has the money to see a counselor. Not everybody wants to. Or different cultures might not even look upon that approvingly. But being able just to release it can help the mind let it go. You'll always have a memory of the event, and it will always live in your body, but you can control it better by having. Having it released
MJ Brewer
@Mommas_Jungle · 4:30
And when you're writing it down, you usually don't do it in a way that you would speaking. Because, like speaking, I know myself. I will say half a sentence and stop and start another sentence and stop and go back, back and forth, back and forth. But when I'm writing something down, my writing doesn't look like that. My writing is thought out so that it makes sense in a linear way
MJ Brewer
@Mommas_Jungle · 4:47
I couldn't have a relationship for years. Anyway, this went on for 30 years. And then finally, about a week and a half ago, like I said, I've been really working on it, trying to remember things, you know, conferring with siblings that the ones I still get along with, friends, I picked their brain and everything, trying to find out things that have happened, hoping it will jolt something to help me remember
Mental Wellness Stories
@hope · 0:33
Wow. MJ, thank you for your story. And I feel like you do. You're in a moment of resolution, for sure. But it doesn't surprise me that one of the takeaways you have of this is that memory protects us in a very strange way sometimes. I've heard that before, and you're. There's two theories about that. One is to remember and then exercise it out, and then be free of the shackles
Mental Wellness Stories
@hope · 0:38
So thank you so much for the retelling of this, and I hope it was okay for you to talk about it, because I know sometimes the talking is also a release, and it's therapeutic, but it's also hard. So thank you
Kim Soliz
@apianogirl · 3:50
Sometimes my husband says I don't make sense, and it's like my brain zips from one side to, you know, something else, or it just blanks out. You know, that brain fog is so very real, but writing it out helps to keep it there and keep it clear, like you said, and then to be able to read it to see how much growth I've made as a person, maybe, you know, through change
Kim Soliz
@apianogirl · 2:37
But I think, like you said in your reply to my post about journaling, I think that's one of the best ways to process it. I know there are several different counseling techniques, what to do with that journaling or writing yourself a letter, you know, and how to move on from a trauma that you remember. The brain is just an amazing organ, and I'm glad that you are here and that you are able to talk about your experiences
Isn't it interesting how trauma takes on different shapes and sizes as we progress through our journey in life? I mean, back in December, I had a physical traumatic event, not something that I hope to ever go through again, and I hope nobody ever goes through that. Boy, howdy. And so I've been traveling across the country, coming out from east Tennessee, out to the northwest to catch a ferry from Bellingham, Washington, to Ketchikan, Alaska
Mental Wellness Stories
@hope · 0:31
Alexander. Wow. This is a moment that was given to you. We have to look at it as a positive thing this week. But, you know, your whole gestalt now is to be a positive impact, and that's your calling now because of your trauma. And I'm just hoping that this week turns out to be something that's meaningful to you. And it doesn't have to have a label on it as productive or as transformative or as useful
MJ Brewer
@Mommas_Jungle · 2:28
And trauma happens to the best of us, you know, so much trauma. And it's the people that come out without feeling sorry for themselves, without telling everybody, oh, feel bad for me. Come and help me do this. It's the people that look at the trauma and say, okay, it happened, it's real. What did I learn from it? And what can I do to help someone else with my experience by going through their own trauma?
MJ Brewer
@Mommas_Jungle · 4:06
Other people think of it as some pup and pony show, you know, where you're saying, oh, look at me. Look at what I. All the things that I've done. And the fact of the matter is, it's not things that you've done. It's things you've been through, and it's not even chosen
Kim Soliz
@apianogirl · 4:59
Like, you've opened my eyes. I am thinking about how, you know, I blamed God for quite some time and it got to the point where I felt like even God abandoned me. And I thought, why? What have I done? And my oldest son, Matthew would tell me, mom, maybe it's just God's way of telling you to rest, but I don't believe in a God that would cause bad things to happen to someone
SayCo Show
@saycoshow · 3:00
It always changes you when you get an operation or you lose a body part. But that will definitely put the brakes on stupidness, the small things in your life. But I want to say, day three, day four, the pain kind of curved, and I was able to see life again. And I think that's why I've thrown myself into. Well, I threw myself into the radio station talk show
Mental Wellness Stories
@hope · 0:33
Wow. That is traumatic on every level. And the pain, the new relationship to your body and the renewed strength that you know you have, I mean, that's the. That's the stuff of life, right? I have a friend who had a similar situation, and it's remarkable how resilient we are as spirits. But in those moments, we have decisions to make so that we can make sure we don't get defined by our trauma
Kim Soliz
@apianogirl · 4:27
And so I think we need to have more awareness that, you know, we needed to take better care of ourselves. And you know, it's important to get checked and checked regularly so that things like cancer can be caught earlier. But I really appreciate your post, and I hope that there are men listening and and will get themselves checked out or have a woman in their life that'll push, push, push like I did to get their partner in and checked. So thank you
SayCo Show
@saycoshow · 0:09
Hey, it's Seiko Alford from the Seiko show. I just wanted to come back and say that I really do appreciate this feed and I appreciate your kind words
SayCo Show
@saycoshow · 0:47
You can find how to check yourself online, or you can just tell them, go to the doctor and ask the doctor to check them. It's very, very easy because it is one of those silent spreaders, silent killers. But I really appreciate you sharing your story and I hope you have a blessed day
