We are still a family, regardless if there's a man in the house or not. Me and you, kid, are still a family. And so I said, I'm going to let go of that mindset of we're not a family just because it's a mom and a son in the house and a man is not there and I'm going to go get us a dog. I already knew that I really wasn't a pet person
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:41
This is JL out loud and I'm not a dog person and I have a dog for my son and I'm having a hard time bonding and I know I cannot be the only one in the entire world who has ever dealt with this. So I'm certain that there is tips and guidance and tricks and all kinds of things out there that people can share with me and I will stay tuned for those things. Thank you so much for listening with compassion and understanding
Eluchianna Olive
@Luchianna · 5:00
But I get it. But you're showing that dog so much love, so much love, and that dog just wants to be loved. That's it. Not if you but because you are a caring, nurturing person and maybe not a quote unquote dog person, you still have that level of empathy and just wanted to do the right thing by the dog. So enjoy the moment. We don't know how many more years you have left, so find the joy somewhere
That's not to say he's not spoiled, but I mean, it's kind of like meeting them part way, like you would a human. Only humans can speak to us, and cats and dogs can't. But the more that I learned about him, the more I saw him and his personality, and that there was this amazing little guy there that I hadn't given the time of day. And now we do have a bond
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:57
Like, okay, he comes back home with me, the dog comes to he comes back home with you, his sister comes to you. I was like, oh, h*** no. H***, no. I'll manage this dog. Don't worry about it. And so we were able to share that laugh, but it was like, Toddler, dog, toddler. I'll take the dog. Yes, that's a good way to put it into perspective
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:47
It has all the tools to be a good person, a good human to society. Putting that into perspective, that's how I am with this dog, because I started thinking as I was listening to you, of all of the things that I've done, to all of the things that I've done to take care of him. Like, I went from buying dog food to I make his dog food to I make sure that he's left with caretakers who are going to take care of him
Love LadyO 💋
@loveladyo · 5:00
Hey, JL. So more alike than different. Once again, listening to you just made me really think about my experiences and having my pets and really initially feeling super excited and really wanting them and then not wanting the responsibility. It just really didn't fit in with my lifestyle and what I had going on. But I totally needed to be the responsible one
XYZ but the other thing I was thinking, I don't know what your relationship is with your accent, your son's father, but could the dog go with him when he goes? Would his father be open to having a part time dog? Because that might be the best solution for you. This might not be an option, but I just think it could be the ideal solution for everyone, including the dog, if it was a possibility
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:51
So I've already given him his food for today, for this morning, and then I feed him again in the evening. We're going to do our walk around 130, but yes. So going back to your suggestion, so I had a good and honest talk with my son around November, end of November, early December. I mean, I was in tears because I was just like, I got to give this dog up. I can't do it
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:59
But the last time we had the conversation, which was right after Thanksgiving, I mean, I was brought to tears. He was almost near tears because he really adores this dog. I'm out walking the dog now, actually, and it is beautiful outside. I'm doing with much more joy, I swear. I think it's weather related. I just don't like being out in the cold, and me having to be out in the cold is associated with him
Aayan B
@aayanisms · 4:35
Yes, your child will feel bad, but it is still a child and they will get over it. It will take some time, but it's something that will heal over a period of time and then eventually when they grow up and they're responsible enough, they can have their own pet and maintain it. And so those are tough decisions, I know. Easier said than done. But these could be the two ways to look at it
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 1:12
Hi. It's JL. Thank you so much for your feedback and suggestions. And you're right, that's one component I do keep in mind, and I believe I mentioned he's a Maltese. And I've done some research on the breed and have had conversations with others who have Maltese breeds as a pet, and they too have said average lifespan, it's about 15 to 17 years