When my son's father eventually remembered, I even referred to his now wife as my son's bonus mother. There's no step here, no step above, no step beneath. However, that was the dynamic in the home. Yes, there are some things my son's father and I could have done differently in raising Elijah. There are things we still could do differently. We are not perfect parents
Joshua Tito
@ozzymendez · 5:00
You, wow, I'm so sorry your son had to go through that. And you, of course. I mean, it's just it's almost unimaginable to to sort of understand what a parent might be going through when when they're when their partners isn't when the partner is not accepting their child as if they're their own. But unfortunately, statistics do bring that out, that stepparents
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:59
And so it's really important that we be mindful of how we respond to when people are asking for help or when they share certain aspects of their relationships. I'm even more careful, just as my own experience of being a survivor of domestic violence, that when people say, I'm not sure I can go home or if I want to continue in this relationship before this experience, I would say, oh, I'm going to pray for you all. Stay together. You got to do it
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:58
Hi Thade. Thank you so much for taking time to listen to my experience. And this is why I'm doing it. I'm doing it to bring voice and light to what psychological abuse and all of the different components and elements of it look like, like and escalation of intimate partner violence and domestic violence and trauma within the home. Thank you for sharing your background and your experience and how it has impacted you
Joshua Tito
@ozzymendez · 4:54
Yeah. So basically, sometimes we, we have things that we construct our circle in a way that supports us. But Thade, support doesn't always mean that it's healthy support. As I said, a lot of times it's familiar, but I've learned that, well, got to modify things. I'm getting better at modifying things for healthy support systems internally and externally. And that's produced, I think, increasingly good results in my life and
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 1:16
First of all, JL, I'm really sorry that you had to go through that because that's terrible. I mean, our children, when we look at their face and we know it's something serious that hurts them, man, it's like a gunshot, you know? So I know you had to feel incredibly bad when he said that, so. But thank God you're not in that anymore. At least that's what I'm trying to get out of this
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:18
I said, this is our marriage to make our own. And here is what I am open to as your wife. And I remember him looking at me as if I had two heads, like, wait a minute, you're going to be okay with this? And he made the commitment that he wanted to have a traditional marriage, and then ensued with still being unfaithful and what I have shared with women. I wasn't strong enough to share it back then
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 1:46
The physiological changes that are happening inside as I am doing it, I mean, from an elevated heart rate feeling like my heart has dropped to the pit of my stomach, to feeling nauseous, loss of appetite, sweaty palms, stammering of speech, all of those things happen, but I'm doing it. Not but. And I am doing it regardless of all of those things happening inside, I'm doing it. I'm speaking up for myself