Hey, swell. It's JL. Now, this swell might be a little different because I might get a little emotional during it. Hopefully, I stay coherent. I'll try to pause, gather myself, and continue on. And I'll also try to keep it below five minutes. Since I am not making this a premium swell, I just wanted to share an experience I just had this morning. Well, it really had started two weeks ago when I ran out of gas
It's. Good morning, and thank you for sharing this and being so open and so real with how you were feeling. I resonated with it because there were times in my life that I thought the same thing. Am I that important? And I was always made to feel unimportant me. So I wondered, why did you feel that in that moment? Why did you not believe you were important enough for him to want to come take care of you? I understand it
Guadalupe Ospina
@GOD1forever · 3:09
It. Wow, that's really, really beautiful that you are able to rely on someone and that you do that you see that it was proven to you that you're not alone and that there's nothing wrong with asking for help. That when need help, if there is someone that you're able to count on, it's okay to ask for help. It's good to ask for help, because we are not alone and sometimes we need help
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:58
You? Great, great question and one that I know I will need to reflect on periodically over time because it's rooted in how I was raised being the only child for the first seven years of my life and then an only child no start over. The only child for the first seven years of my life and then the oldest after age seven, messages that I received from parents, family, people that were close to the family about taking care of things on your own, not asking for help
And so conversations like we just had this morning are just so enriching and so wonderful. And it makes me feel better that I'm not alone in how we feel. And, yeah, I can see how I was raised in the stuff and I think it was a whole different time. And being the oldest and being seven just was viewed upon as being so wise and old. When raising my own kids, I'm like, seven, you're still a child
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 1:33
Hey, it's JL. Thank you so much for chiming in on this swell. This is an important topic to me and obviously, you know what, I'm going to make it my focus for the month of October, receiving help with more grace and more patience with myself. And I appreciate what you pointed out in terms of that. It's a strength, asking for help and then receiving help
When she could shift that, finally, then it was like it opened the doors up for her to finally receive her husband's love. They'd been together since they were teenagers, and he would tell her how much he loved her. But it wasn't until she could begin to love herself and accept herself and see herself as worthy that suddenly she could receive his love, right?
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:09
As I was listening to you, I just had another thing that came up because, you know, you and I have had conversations on these platforms by way of topics and you've expressed in terms about your views on religion. And I've expressed, well, hey, my foundation is Christianity, but I see myself as more spiritual than religious
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 1:24
I can get it for you. I can do it. And I had to let myself be helped. Isn't there something that you have to let yourself be helped? But I'm so grateful that you're feeling better and that this man came to help you. This was a wonderful story to share with all of us, letting us know that we're worthy and that we're worth it, too. Thank you so very much. I really appreciated this story. It was so good
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 2:48
Hey, Lady Phi, thank you so much for responding to this. Wellcast, on asking for help and receiving help, ultimately the help. And you're right, we are definitely worth asking and receiving help. And thank you for sharing with me your journey of what that looked like for you as a woman who has been a divorcee and has been through several different elements of life and as a mother, et cetera, just your own journey
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Hello, JL. And you got me so emotional in this. Well, I shed a few tears, and especially towards the end, I got really emotional. And I really related to what you were saying. I could tell that you're an extremely strong woman, someone who is independent, who takes care of her own needs, meets every challenge, and who is capable of handling yourself
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:44
Hi. It's JL. Thank you so much for your response. And when you are a woman who is self sufficient, I prefer not to use the word independent because of the negative connotation to it. So I say self sufficient and has been self sufficient for a very long time and chose men that really were not accountable and responsible or masculine enough for me, because everyone's level of masculinity in heterosexual relationships, that's my familiarity, their preference is different