And I dig the idea of being in a relationship, a commitment with someone, whether I'm married or not, to this person. And we don't live together and we can make it what we want it to look like. But I believe it helps to maintain or it will help to maintain the level of respect for each other's. Space for each other's. Preferences for each other's. Solo individual time that it will maintain a level of excitement of the preparation for spending time together
Georgie Dee
@GeorgieDee · 3:55
Hey, JL. We speak again. Georgie D. Here. I am probably a lot older than you, so I am 55 in December. I have lived with partners and I have lived separately from partners. And now I am pretty much at the Abromantic asexual stage in my life, probably due to menopause. And I am super duper happy about this because I found that with no sexual drive, I have so much less drama in my life because I became a romantic about seven years ago
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 3:47
Whereas now, coming home doing nothing, I don't feel guilty about it. Coming home, doing nothing, sometimes not cleaning immediately, watching copious amounts of p***, all that stuff. I don't feel guilty about it as I did prior. I actually am for living separately. It can still work, and I think if anything, it would make it work ten times better. But for folks that do live with their spouse, nothing's wrong with that. It's very traditional
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 3:22
It's just the refreshing in that way. But I definitely will look up that term a romantic. It's the first time I heard of that term. But I completely dig everything you said in your response to this post on the ideology of being in a relationship or committed to a relationship and living apart and just many of the benefits fits of that. Thank you so much for your contribution. Bye
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:51
And I thought that was like, that's some cool a** s*** to be able to have you hear married couples talk about. Like you said, your only space by yourself is with people who are at work, like your time at work or your drive to work or home from work. And then you kind of sit in the driveway and just kind of take in that moment, hoping that no one comes to interrupt you while you're having that time. Swell. Guess what?
tauchi williams
@purplewaves · 2:33
I think the interesting thing that I also bring into the mix is having a tiny human and how that goes and how that would influence things. So I am really appreciating this conversation. Thank you, Jill, for putting this out there. I think that it's so healthy to again explore the areas of gray. It doesn't have to be black or white. It doesn't have to be one or the other
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:58
And it was all because he could not be honest with himself about living a nontraditional marriage or having a non traditional marriage. And because of his inability to be honest with himself led me to not be able to trust him to lead our family. Because I was like, if he can't be honest with himself from that space of lack of integrity and honesty, he's going to make some choices that are going to put us in a position that is not what I signed up for