Hey, swell. This is your girl Jl, and I am here with a tale from the suburbs. This tell for me focuses specifically on assuming the best of intent. On Monday evenings, true to suburban lifestyle, we robotically will our track bins out to the curb of our driveways. Because Tuesday morning is trash day. Trash and recycling. Recycling is every other week, and I had quite a few things to recycle. Trash day happens uneventfully. I do my productive task for Tuesday
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:07
Do you have more or less than me? Let me compete with you. And I'm damn sure not going to speak to you unless I want to take something to your house. So I'm comparing and contrasting the two. Both type of neighborhoods are essentially the same. One might aesthetically, people might say, oh, it's an eyesore
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 0:53
Because come on now. You made the mess, or whomever made the mess. And now you want me to clean it up? You all up in my business. For real? For real. That's crazy, girl. That's why I don't assume the best intent are nobody. Because usually I'm disappointed. But I think people are inherently good. I do. But there are some that make you question it. For real
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:16
When I was married, we actually lived in a duplex with my husband's grandfather, and then next door, he also owned the house, and his mother lived there, so I was surrounded by his family. So that was really helpful as well. But, like, my house now to know my neighbors, our kids all go to the same school because it's a neighborhood school
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:56
And he pointed to the house. And when he pointed to the house, I was like, oh, my God, you look so different. And I'm looking at him and I was like, jl, don't say anything. Don't say anything. Keep your mouth closed, girl. Then he looks at me, he goes, who are the other kids he's playing with? That's when I went off. I cursed that man up, down, left and right
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 1:45
Because when you move around, people that don't believe in what you believe is hard. See, I'm talking about. My dog is in here. Every time I'm trying to do something, here come a dog. Anyway, I'm just going to ignore her for right now. What I was saying was that. Yeah, I get you. And therefore the token black so called
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:58
So the next morning, I'm walking the dog, she passes me, and as she passes me, didn't speak as normal. Per normal. They really don't speak, even if you speak to them. And she walks a few steps past me, and then she turns and she goes, hey. And I said, yes. And she goes, did you get a new car? And I said, no. Why?
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 0:15
Thank you, Evelyn. I appreciate your understanding. I am right there with you. As I mentioned, I'm in the process of moving, and I remain hopeful and excited about the next chapter
Tim Robinson
@takeitfromtim · 4:50
And I think the way that you handled it, you held it very well. And the situation regarding your son, that would have really bothered me. And I see I'm running out of time, so I'm going to close this well up. But thanks for sharing your story, and bye bye for now. Bye
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:44
Hello. Hi. Thank you so much. As you have so eloquently stated on a different swell, on one of your own swells that I responded to, I am thankful for the gift of time that you decided to listen to this swell, all of the engagement on the swell, and then add your perspective as a man. I am also appreciative that you did notice the person. The subject in my swell is also a male. Notice. I didn't say man. That was intentional