But yeah, I've learned a lot and I don't know if it was when I hit 30, I'm way past 30 now, it's been a few years. But I've learned to extend grace. And I extend grace because I know that I'm walking around here battling and struggling too. And I feel that we are all healing from something and it's not our job to identify everyone's hurt, pain, healing process or suffering. That is not job to do that