Himanshi Thakur
@GreyMatter · 5:00
Adopting the idea of adoption
My mom did suggest her to adopt a baby because she really wanted to be a mother and she refused. Her explanation was that I will not be able to accept her as my own. This is what she told her. And it's okay. I don't hold it against her. I mean, everybody has right to make their life choices and everybody is entitled to their own opinion, and ultimately, it's her life
Himanshi Thakur
@GreyMatter · 1:49
And I think it would be phenomenal if we could provide a loving, nurturing family to an orphan, or if not an orphan, of an abandoned child. Because I think if given a chance, I would really want to. Want to go for it. I think I would not stop myself if situation so arises
Because when we understand better, then we can invest in family relationships with this baby, this child, in a way that is more. I don't know what word I want to use. Deeper, more intentional, thoughtful. Okay. This is going to sound like a really strange sort of analogy, but I think there's still something to this. So, fur babies have been my kids, okay?
Ranjana Kamo
@Gamechanger · 2:02
And I do not see any difference between their love for a biological child or for the adopted child. And the adopted children are doing so well. They're grown up now and they're doing so well in life. The parents take such good care of them. And because when you adopt a child, the child is born from your heart. It's a part of you, the child becomes a part of you. And you can't just distinguish between an adopted or a biological child
Himanshi Thakur
@GreyMatter · 1:38
Good morning, Ranjana. Ma'am. Happy Diwali. And thank you. Thank you for gracing my swell with the response. And I'm completely with you on this. I'm on the same page as you are because I think that adoption is beautiful too. Giving those children a home and raising them. This idea really appeals to me. And however, I am not sure about my own future choice, whether I would want to have kids at all, infertility or not
Himanshi Thakur
@GreyMatter · 2:37
I think that could be the case. That is the case, I think for most of the mothers. But in the next person who replied, he said a wonderful thing, that when you adopt a child, a child is born from your heart and if not womb. I think that's a very powerful statement to make. A child is born from your heart. So be it beat pet baby or beat your own baby
Yuvraj Jain
@yjain60 · 2:48
So that is one reason why I feel we should always be grateful if you're able to adopt one, because we're lucky enough to have them in our lives and to be able to nurture them and in process, elevate our own beings, elevate our own soul, and elevate our own levels of kindness and goodness in our heart. Which is why I feel it's a wonderful deed. Irrespective of adoption, irrespective of confusing whatever it is, I feel this is a blessing from the universe
But I do agree, because these days there are certain instances that are happening after adoption of children. And I do agree because of those situations, there might be some kind of questions that might be coming up in the mind of people. But we can't guess anything right now. Even if you give birth to your own child also. Still, there might be a situation where he or she doesn't take care of you. So it's not like that
Himanshi Thakur
@GreyMatter · 3:10
So, yeah, about parenthood, I think you put it absolutely beautifully and that is how it should be, right? You've been with your own children. And thirdly, towards the end of this, well, you put out this point that people do not accept adoption because they miss the loyalty part of it. They presume that this, quote, unquote, other child will never adopt them as his or her own. Even if you do
Himanshi Thakur
@GreyMatter · 1:40
Once you are attached and connected, be it a fur baby or be a human baby. So thank you. Thank you for replying so heartwarmingly and I hope everything is fine with you. I'll see you around. Take care
And yet I've heard cases who have gotten the child in just a year. So it's probably also luck, maybe. I don't know. But there are too many things to this. So the entire process of adoption is not that easy for parents who want to take these children. Also, everybody wants a younger child, children who are aged between zero to probably two years. And as they grow, especially after they turn 8910, their chances of being adopted become much less
Himanshi Thakur
@GreyMatter · 3:21
Hi Ash, thank you for replying and thank you for giving such a wonderful insight on this topic. I'm so glad that your family is supportive towards this idea. But you know, the data that you mentioned, the fact that you mentioned are so troublesome because let's say that if it takes two to five years to adopt a baby and people want to adopt children, infants between zero to two age, then you know, this doesn't match, right?
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:34
However, I live in the state of Virginia here in the US, and so far we have the most children in foster care out of all the 50 states in the country. And so we definitely need children to have permanency. And so I want to adopt, and I pray that God makes that a reality soon. For me to adopt a child, I used all sorts of reasons why I couldn't. My house ain't big enough
Himanshi Thakur
@GreyMatter · 3:17
Because I am not gender biased, but I understand that both mother and father have their role in child's development. And by saying this, I'm not at all disregarding the homosexual couples. I respect their relationship and their sexuality and their way of family and home, too. I'm not disrespecting them. But since it is not a common thing in India, I have not seen homosexual couples as frequent
Of course, when we have to put all these things together, it is important to understand that we may not be able to spoon feed our children somehow, but we don't have the right to bring a child, especially bring a child on this planet and not be able to prepare them for the world ahead of them. What I mean, basically, let's face it. Let's face this reality that children happen out of accidents. Mostly most parents are not prepared for it
Himanshi Thakur
@GreyMatter · 5:00
You can only provide them with efficient ammunition so that they are able to create their own future. So it is a huge responsibility and one that must be taken seriously. Parents should also understand that they are raising a person whom are not their property. So you have to have that sort of bond with them. So, yeah, it's a tricky
Adarsh Rai
@TheDevilsHorse · 5:00
And this is the headline that you mentioned, adopting. The idea of adoption, or. That is genius. That is brilliantly articulated. Absolutely. I was just having a general conversation with my mother, and it's. It's like I speak very less with my parents, and I just wanted to see what would she react. I was just having certain experimental conversations with few of my family members, and my mother was one of it
Adarsh Rai
@TheDevilsHorse · 5:00
I hope that God blesses me in a way where I'm much more firmly independent, I'm more fitter, and I'm more confident of myself then that one day I can look towards this. And this is what I've been discussing a lot with my superior half. So this is a fascinating topic. And I've known few people, not directly, who have raised children that they had adopted and what a lovely family they have. So that relations, for me, it doesn't make sense
Himanshi Thakur
@GreyMatter · 5:00
I guess, because I and my partner, we often discuss about having kids or not having kids, adopting kids, not adopting kids, having kids at all or not. These are the conversations that we sometimes have. And I know that we are quite rebellious and independent of our own. We are quite independent in our own thought processes and our perceptions, but our families are going to be diametrically opposite. That is the truth of our society
Adarsh Rai
@TheDevilsHorse · 5:00
And a couple of factors is to do with they were so much engrossed in just earning daily bread and butter that they squandered away even the thought process to venture into their mindset that this can be a possibility. Okay. And what our culture, what our tradition, what our ways speak of, we hardly follow anything. Everybody gets enlightened and want to speak about it. But someone who has seen death very closely can tell you one thing. That only certainty after birth is death
Adarsh Rai
@TheDevilsHorse · 3:19
These are the few things like, there was this when I was growing up. There were this notion. Now this has been ringing in my ears and my friends and everyone knows about it. And then these folks have the audacity to say that India doesn't win gold medals or win medals in Olympics. Boss, when your focus has not even towards sports, how dare you expect our sportsmen to do that? How come? How
Himanshi Thakur
@GreyMatter · 4:58
You map Kibad say Igdam Sadha samato and society Itana Hypocrisy Itna Double standards Hanki Matlab I'm just. I just cannot digest it at times. And there are huge faults in our social system. That's for sure. And not just our. I think these huge faults exist in all kinds of social system throughout the world. They have always existed. But Kisikotoski beyond Janapadegana or Idana Parnalikneka itna dunyadikneka fadai kyawajab. You cannot have your own independent mindset
Himanshi Thakur
@GreyMatter · 3:22
But how many avasutai the wahapi. But the rules for Niwa Kisiko toka niga Bolaniga. People could do whatever. People were back to their old ways. So it was fine to Bhatti Logan and I am not going to give into such arbitrary rules. You need to be assertive. Take a. You need to know what you believe in and you need to be ready to fight for it. NATO apna fight Karangay to Apku dabadi Ajaga Jahevo apki Gharwali dabai apka Community dabai rulemakers Dabai. No