Also, I'm a 90s kid, so hanging out with friends, meeting up, having a lot of friends was not so common. And all socialization happened only in school. I never really went to tuition until 10th class, so I did not have that experience also. And even if in 11th twelveth, I did go to coachings. But it was more of a stressful thing because I was struggling in PCB. Biology was fine, but I struggled in physics and chemistry
Himanshi Thakur
@GreyMatter · 4:59
I was so messed up, so tangled in my negative emotions that I had no realization of positivity, let alone having it in my life. But as the college ended, I gained some wisdom regarding handling relationships. And I sort of became clear that this is something that I don't want. I don't want toxicity. I don't want judgmentalism. I don't want any negative stuff
Yuvraj Jain
@yjain60 · 4:16
You. Hi there. I just received an invite from you in prior to five minutes before and I received a message from you too. So yeah, I kind of relate to what you want to shared it. It's an experience I think we all are meant to go through at some point or the other in our lives so that we evolve
Himanshi Thakur
@GreyMatter · 1:47
And I work a little hard to be able to have a proper conversation with you guys here on swell. Everybody is so learned, so wise, so knowledgeable, so loving and so warm, so accepting. So I need to up my game also to be here and to contribute something substantial. And what a blessing that is. What a blessing. Truly. So thank you. Thank you for everything and thank you for replying. Yuvi, take care and good night and also have a great week ahead
Ranjana Kamo
@Gamechanger · 1:55
Also, if we start looking at things from a different way, then things change and we don't really have to change anyone. Yeah, definitely we're not going to accept toxicity, but yes, there will be some things that we can overlook depending on how damaging or how irrelevant they are. But yes, if we change ourselves, change the way we look at things, things will change. And it's good to know that you are in a happier place
Adarsh Rai
@TheDevilsHorse · 5:00
It's fascinating how much we have been euthanized by the tech in our life, and yet a lot of people speak ill about it. The tech has enabled these conversations. You mentioned that. And I can godge that where you're coming from, being the only child, and I being the only child of my Jain. And so that feeling of loneliness is very heavy. It's intense, it's nerve wracking at times
Adarsh Rai
@TheDevilsHorse · 4:57
But that is what it is, that is what I will. And I hope you understand where I'm trying to put across because since childhood, parents are supposed to protect. But somewhere that didn't happen with me. And there was a lot of resentment, there was a lot of anguish, pain, agony that was there and I tried to confront it a couple of years back that didn't went well at all. So I took a backstep
We need to change the perspectives of how we look at life, how we measure it from a very narrow lens and improve upon it. The path that you have taken, I can see that you are already set out to go beyond the cloud line, and that's what an eagle does. That's what an eagle will always do. There are so many crows that fight with the eagle, but the eagle never fights with the crow
Himanshi Thakur
@GreyMatter · 3:11
And your words resonated with me and I'm so glad that you could fabricate a defense mechanism for yourself, for your survival. That is so important. And I think that is something we have to do. We have no choice, right? Our survival instincts are as old as our own existence and as the existence of the human civilization. And I think earlier when it was more about surviving physically, I think in the modern times, the survival concerns itself with the mental and emotional aspect of our living
Himanshi Thakur
@GreyMatter · 5:00
I think that is appealing to living in the future and not in the present. And that's the biggest disrespect you can do to yourself, to your own life. To not live in the moment, to not live in the present. Of course, your present is driven by your future goals, ambitions, that is sure. But is that future guaranteed? No, it is not. But yes, what is guaranteed is your hard work, your work
Gunjan Joshi
@Bibliophile · 4:58
They tend to obsess about their household and children all the time and do not quite understand the lives of women who are other than themselves. There was one of my friend, we were really thick till 2020 and she was going through a lot in her marriage and she had a miscarriage and then she fought with her husband a lot. So there was a time when she only spoke about herself. She used to call up and she never used to ask me even that, how am I doing?
Gunjan Joshi
@Bibliophile · 3:46
Earlier they were simple platforms wherein you could just make a comment or make fun about a friend or, you know, laugh at their intakes. But now it has. Now those both the picture obsessed platforms I'm talking about, they've become a perfect place for exhibitionism, especially among women. I must say I really apologize for criticizing women so much. But like most of the people there, they tend to exhibit material acquisitions or material pleasure they are having in life, which is really sad
Himanshi Thakur
@GreyMatter · 5:00
And this is sad. Yeah, it's complicated. And technology has a huge technology has changed our relationship dynamics, that's for sure. Kyunki Instagram we are looking for validation. Facebook May we are expressing our emotions and in whatever weird ways. I don't think it's a healthy expression there. So technology and then we are all the time we want this stimulation all the time. All the time we want information and all the time we want to just
Himanshi Thakur
@GreyMatter · 4:34
But at the end of the day, I think it's better to be alone than to socialize with wrong kind of people. Because people influence, right? People have all sorts of influence on us and we cannot be isolated to those influences. So we should be picky of the kind of influences that you want on yourself
And the moment you were sharing your experience, I could actually feel and I could recollect all the memories where I really felt guilty of myself or I really felt pathetic because of the kind of choices I made with regards to people. So I could relate your every point with my own life. So thank you so much for sharing it because to share our experiences, we need lot of courage and I always feel you have that and you always make us feel the connectivity. So thank you so much
Himanshi Thakur
@GreyMatter · 1:32
Hi, Gauri. Thank you very much for replying and thank you for your wonderful sweet and kind know I went through the same thing. I berated myself for committing a lot of mistakes that I did with people, for trusting people, for letting them getting on my nerves, for giving them so much power to affect me. I did that too. But these are the things you cannot really prepare yourself for