Don't worry about losing the relationship or what a person would say. A no is not going to break a real relationship. Plus, you will know which people are there to fleece you or use your goodness for their benefit. So be firm and say no twice if you have to. I would like to add here that the person will not trouble you again if you firmly refuse once and if the relationship means something to that person, a no is not going to do anything to that relationship
So it's very important to understand when to say no and when to say yes. And saying no is not a bad thing. Saying no is something that will help you out to protect yourself from the overburden and all. So it's really important, and you really give wonderful examples through which one can actually understand how important saying no in our life is. Thank you so much, Ranjana. Have a great day
Swati Sharma
@Swatiselflove · 2:36
And if somebody breaches that boundary, it's something that can play a whole lot of havoc with their mental health, with their spiritual health, with their emotional health. And this very word no, it's something that people do not know how to rephrase it in their sentence. So it's very important that you say no to the person very politely, but with a statement of firmness
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Ranjana Kamo
@Gamechanger · 0:17
Thank you so much, Gauri, for responding. And yes, you're very right. You know that saying no is not a bad thing. Thank you so much, and I'm so glad that you agree with the points. And thank you so much. Have a lovely day. Bye
Ranjana Kamo
@Gamechanger · 0:31
Thank you so much. Swati. Thank you so much. And I'm so glad that you brought up so many points. And, yes, when you say that the boundaries are for our peace and for our individuality, I think that's very important. And yes, when there's a genuine need, definitely we have to help. But if somebody's just taking us for a ride, then definitely saying no is the only option left. Thank you so much. Have a lovely day. Bye
So you have to decide what your highest priorities and have the courage, pleasantly, smilingly and non apologically, to say no to the other things. And the way to do that is by having a bigger yes burning inside. And let's today, let today mark a new beginning for you. Give yourself permission to say no without feeling guilty. Mean, selfish. Anybody who gets upset and accepts you to say yes all of the time clearly doesn't have your best interest at heart
Ranjana Kamo
@Gamechanger · 0:28
You. Thank you so much for getting back and sharing your thoughts. You're so right that, you know, if people are always expecting you to say yes, then they don't really mean well and don't have your best interests at heart, and we should not feel guilty when we say no. So those are very valid points and thank you for sharing. Have a lovely evening. Bye
Cheyonia Wade
@Chey · 3:14
But I look at the people who, their lives were kind of smooth sailing. Their lives were very routine and strategic. They put it that way. Well, strategically, they made it that way. And I'm all over the place, or I'm running here, running there. And with all the running and helping, it opens the door and creates turmoil sometimes within your own life because you are engaging with people who got stuff going on and you're readjusting your schedule for that stuff
Ranjana Kamo
@Gamechanger · 0:54
You. Thank you so much for getting back on this. And I am so glad that you're working on your no muscle. And as you mentioned, you know, this is a muscle that we need to stretch, and we should do that often. And I really liked what your friend had said, that a person's poor planning does not mean that I have to change my schedule. So I think that's a very valid point
They have become more responsible. So they have lot of responsibilities compared to what our mothers or our aunts used to have. And if you look at this entire ecosystem, even men want a woman who is earning. I mean, I don't know, it looks like that men want women to do everything, take care of financials, be independent, being able to support them and take care of external affairs and also take care of home
Ranjana Kamo
@Gamechanger · 1:05
Thank you so much for responding on this and I completely agree with your perspective and your insights on this subject. You're absolutely right in saying that we have to be kind to ourselves, and when we are picking up too many tasks, we are not doing anything great. We are just not giving ourselves enough time, and that is not the right thing to do. And we cannot always be the one handling every task