Hi, this is your friend and well wisher, Ranjana Kamo. I want to speak about a topic that is very close to my heart. How we get influenced so easily by the people around us. It is easy to get influenced and we get influenced by people around us all the time. When people comment things like you talk too less, you have a bad dressing sense, you're not cool. Are you letting such opinions affect you? Do you look at others for approval?
You. Very well said, ma'am and Yehi huta. And what I am doing nowadays to avoid that, that is ignorance is the bliss. I become so emotional and you know, I don't react. Quick time. Kibatunuku ispa pivot. I am not reacting. They are there to pull my legs. But the best thing is to ignore them. And Bounko bought a kitchat. Thank you so much for sharing. This is really helping. And just say influence not the honor. Koshish, live
Ranjana Kamo
@Gamechanger · 0:30
You. Thank you so much. Amna bilkuti kahabi yourself or agarap react nikarangi to best otakuki dusri lok fear igdams is unkosanajataiki. They cannot keep manipulating you or fear your reaction otavo they can like hotai so I think apesai katara that is so interesting and nice and I think the most effective thing to do. So thank you so much for sharing, for taking the time to talk to me. Keep sharing and keep interacting. Take care. Bye
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
You know what, such kind of comments maybe are not welcome. So either I get passive or I get very aggressive. So I prefer passivity rather than being aggressive. But then that's a lesson. Now that I've identified the problem, hopefully I'll work out a solution. But what resonated with me was your line that don't let others build a house in your brain and build a wall. It'll stay with me today and hopefully longer throughout and see you around
Swati Sharma
@Swatiselflove · 2:34
And if we don't find anyone talking good about us, or if they speak even a word against us about our looks or about our parents or dress or whatever like you mentioned, it's going to be taken by us very seriously, unfortunately. So there is this lack of self love that is at the core of everything. And this is what we need to teach our kids, that you have to love yourself
Ranjana Kamo
@Gamechanger · 1:16
You either have to find diplomatic ways of wiggling out or sometimes there are times when you'll have to probably map at someone even if it is rude because at the end of the day it's your sanity that matters more than anything else in life and I feel that slowly and gradually when we start realizing that happiness is the top priority of life I think we start building our life around it in such a way that we are able to create those boundaries. It doesn't happen automatically
Ranjana Kamo
@Gamechanger · 1:33
And what generally happens is all these problems one does realize at the fag end of life. Then you start thinking, oh my God, I could have probably lived a different kind of life. I could have done this differently. But if somebody is talking from experience, nobody wants to listen. They want to probably reinvent the wheel and fail and struggle and then learn. So I think let's do our bit in trying to share our experiences with others and see how, you know, things shape up
And this person has, for a product project that has to be completed for two months, has dilly dalied, and it's become six months. And there's been sloppy work going on. And when we're pointing out that it's not finished, this person, this contractor is telling us that it's not done. So we have to put our foot down
Geetha Kariappa
@angelface7 · 2:53
Hi Ranjana, that was a very effective advice that you gave. Yes, people can easily try to influence us and try to manipulate us by being in control of the situation. Have gone through these experiences in my life where thinking back, I know that I've been a people pleaser. I did not set boundaries for myself and I have suffered in silence the comments of the other people
Ranjana Kamo
@Gamechanger · 1:18
Because in that case, it's very difficult to get the work done. You can't shout at that person. You can't complain to the person because then your relationship gets spoiled. So I always feel that I avoid hiring people who are known to the family or related to the family, because then it becomes a big problem to get things done from them and you can't do anything. You are so dependent on them then. So that's me digressing
Ranjana Kamo
@Gamechanger · 0:24
Thank you so much for taking the time to respond, and I'm so glad that you have been able to understand that we should not get influenced. Candy, you're working on that, and you have stopped getting influenced, and that's really remarkable. And it's so nice to know that and keep in touch. Take care. Bye
You will lead your life in a way others want you to live, but not the way you want your life to be. So this is something which is not at all acceptable. Everyone must agree and look forward to make sure that they don't get influenced by others opinions and all. So this is something really important. Thank you so much for sharing it with us. Ranjana
Ranjana Kamo
@Gamechanger · 1:02
And everybody will say something, but we don't have to believe it or act on it unless we want to, unless it is what we want. There is this song which says, kushtolo, kahngi, lamunga, kamheka. So I we should keep that in mind all the time before we jump into the fray and start behaving the way others would want us to. So thank you so much for getting back on this. Have a lovely day. Bye
So we need to follow our intuitions. And the most important tip to avoid influenced by others is to trust yourself and your decision making skill. So you are the best person to know what is right for you and what aligns with your goals values. Don't let others make your doubt yourself or make your guilty or pursued. So before you make any decision, you need to have a clear idea of what you want to achieve and why
Ranjana Kamo
@Gamechanger · 0:17
Thank you so much for responding on this. And yes, I completely agree with you when you say that we should be able to trust ourselves and our decision making skills and our decisions, and that is something we need to keep in mind. Thank you so much. Bye