For a woman to have no kids and isn't married at an old age it spells a red flag for some. Now, I find it to be quite preposterous, but what are your thoughts? Do you tend to look at a potential spouse or mate as a red flag or warning sign when they have no kids? Yet it's very interesting because in the dating world it's usually a scarlet letter against you if you do have kids. So which is it exactly?
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:25
And so, you know, of course the manosphere, you know, promotes the idea that women's sexual marketplace value you, if you will, declines as they get older. And so when they see women over the age of 40 without kids that are still single, they start to wonder what is going on with them. The person. Now, of course there are some women who are unable to have children due to health crises and different things like that that have taken their ability to have children
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 3:39
Yeah, manosphere. They definitely kind of change the field goal post when it suits their interest. And in this case of women with no kids can be Dutch such it can be just as dangerous as women with kids. Yeah, it I guess when I thought of Maya, I never for once stopped to think, why doesn't she have kids or isn't married?
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 3:04
It seems like you just can't win as a single, this idea that's in the church and in the world is like, you get married at like 1825 at the latest, and you stay together forever and that's it. But that's not people's patterns. So it's like if you're not following that pattern, all hope is lost for you. But that's not people's patterns
It's like, oh, damn, he doesn't have any kids. But at the same time, red flags. Why doesn't he have any kids? He looks handsome. He doesn't come off as if he's gay or anything. Maybe he's on the down low. I've been asked by women and men if I'm gay just because I don't have any children, man. You don't have any kids? Are you gay? Stupid question
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:23
And so I believe everything works together for our good, even if it looks out of order by man's standards. And the manosphere is so double minded and I was going to reply to Dewuan with this, but the manosphere is so double minded because on the one hand, they're telling men there's something wrong with women who are over 40 and don't have kids. But then they're telling men, Stay away from single mothers. So even if she is younger, don't marry her
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 2:47
Hey, SIS. Yeah, the manosphere. Really? You almost wonder, like, what do they want? Right? But a lot of them, as you said, are not married. We know Kevin Samuels, may he rest in peace, was married and divorced twice, I believe. I think O'Shea. Jackson has never been married. Some of the other guys maybe were married. They were probably burned, right?
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:16
He's not a player at all. But that can actually work into his favor because it is so rare, especially among black men, I will say, for black men to be 20 plus with no kids, it definitely grazes some eyebrows from some people because that's usually the first knock, if anything, a woman will have against you is that you have kids
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:55
Because it really didn't specify in a profile. And she sort of said she was cool with it. But then she found some reason why she didn't want to talk with me, which was very weird, which happens a lot for me. Sometimes on those dating profiles, the woman will think I'm attractive, but then they'll realize, like, oh, he's not normal. Okay, I'll leave him alone. But anyway, man, very interesting with you being 35
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:41
Not that they've said it as much, but what I felt and perceived from that as well as being lied to by my then spouse about the paternity of the kids which is why I was so devoted in love to them still, regardless, because it wasn't their fault. But I say all that to say that I would handle things a bit different now and I sort of have in regards of even getting in a relay
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:51
You listed some, but also, in a way, the point that you're trying to make could be an agenda for overpopulating the planet, possibly, and maybe even this agenda of this family, this nuclear family, the man and the woman and kids. Is that supposed to be the default? And I know you had mentioned something about homosexuality agenda, and I was like, oh, interesting. But they can have kids as well