Dewuan .

@FryedOreo·2w ago·4:04

Can Same-Sex People Be Friends?

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"…So here on Swell yesterday I heard a question that is a frequently asked question that is, can men and women be friends? How many times have you heard this question? Probably enough to where you have responded to it at least twice. I get the question, but it's an interesting question, right? Because this is coming from a heterosexual perspective. What about the other sexes? What about this? Can you be friends with the same sex? That sounds silly, right? Of course you can.…"

Is Friendship Easier When It’s The Same Gender? @OmegaStrange

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Jack .

@zejacques · 2w ago · 4:16

"…And the fact that I discovered this guy's cool when we were first meeting, and then I found out he liked those things too. I'm like, wow, this guy is really cool, and we're friends, and this friendship is kind of packed into a neat little bundle around your questions. He is a really attractive guy. He's probably objectively more attractive than me. He's a model and has been for a decade.…"

You flipped the switch on em’!

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Dewuan .

@FryedOreo · 2w ago · 4:51

"…And could it be our willingness to explore our femininity as men? Can we have stronger bonds at times with women? But due to the hegemoni and the patriarchal society, we are conditioned to think, well, since I am friends with this woman, that must mean we should have sex. Why is that? Why have we associated friendship with sex? If a lady smiles, she must want to f***. If a lady laughs at our joke, she must want to f***.…"

@zejacques

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Enfinit Evolushun

@Enfinit · 2w ago · 4:44

"…My masculine energy is kind of low but I'm actually working on that. Being a little bit more masculine in my latter days, in my forty s. And it's gotten even worse with the women. So being a married man and attractive women, it's a crazy thing. So now I'm in a space where I only have female friends. I'm hanging out with females. I don't dismiss male companionship. I don't. I just end up in very weird spaces with men.…"

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J.L. Beasley

@Her_Sisu · 2w ago · 4:57

"…And you've made mention the Juan and your comment on how they can be friends. I can't think of how to pronounce his name right now because I don't have it in front of me. But he has also commented on this thread, has also shared about how you go to your higher self and you operate within boundaries and you can have safe, respectful relationship with members of the opposite sex. As a heterosexual person, it is possible. I have experienced it myself.…"

The lioness has enteted the room.

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J.L. Beasley

@Her_Sisu · 2w ago · 3:13

"…Well, a friendship is a form of an intimate relationship, right? We come with all of our stuff and we just need to make sure that we're healthy, he'll people before bringing other people into our circle, whether same sex or opposite sex, no matter your sexual preference. I don't know. I know I'm in a space where I am healthy, healed, and I believe I'm healthy, healed and whole.…"

@zejacques

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Swell Team

@Swell · now · 0:15

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J.L. Beasley

@Her_Sisu · 2w ago · 4:59

"…But she was like, I know you live on your own. I live on my own. We're both single parents. Even though she has an adult child. And she was like, if you need anything, let me know. And I was like, this is so cool to know that I have someone around the corner that I can count on.…"

@Enfinit

Dewuan .

@FryedOreo · 2w ago · 4:44

"…It kind of became a thing of where, well, is this person like me or not? And that can be a weird and uncomfortable position to be in as a man. I mean, I know as a woman, but as a man, to not be sure if a person is for you or not. It can be pulling hairs, you know what I'm saying? And I've gotten to know you as a father, as a more courageous guy than I am as a husband.…"

@Enfinit 🥀

Enfinit Evolushun

@Enfinit · 2w ago · 4:22

"…But now that I've listened to you quite a bit and have been exposed to your energy, even though you don't use those words quite often, and the spiritual your attunement to that spiritual talk and stuff like that, you may not vibe that way, but you do, dude. I'm telling you. So f****** spiritual. You just do it.…"

#brotherlylove

Dewuan .

@FryedOreo · 2w ago · 4:46

"…And a friend of mine, a great friend of mine, she is not just pure intellectual, she is a spiritual person that meditates and a lot of stuff that I still don't do to this day. And she's had some choice squares to say about my perspective that were similar to what you would say out here. So I knew you had some truth in you, bro. Yeah, man. God love for you, man.…"

@Enfinit

Dewuan .

@FryedOreo · 2w ago · 4:57

"…And I think some of the problems here can be that the man is not secure enough within their platonic nature, that they tend to have a weak inexperience in knowing when women like them. I am a person who is. The last three women I've talked to at my jobs, I assumed to like me, but they actually didn't outright say they liked me. And upon me trying to ask them for their number to go out with them, they said they weren't interested.…"

@Her_Sisu

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"…I usually just didn't have anything in common with females. I barely have anything in common with guys. So I wouldn't mind being friends with the female if she's really down to earth, really cool, but maybe I'm not sociable enough and that could be it. But yeah, in with a cool post. Peace out.…"

Dewuan .

@FryedOreo · 2w ago · 4:51

"…Things didn't work out that way. But we became really cool afterward and things went crazy after that. But it had nothing to do with our platonic nature, it had more to do with that. We just were at different places in our lives. But yeah, I'd be curious to know about that. And do you think it's possible for you to have a lady friend? You kind of sound like you're unsure, so I just want to confirm.…"

@OmegaStrange

"…But I think it has been a while since I spoken to any females. Just in a friendly way, just being friends outside of social media. Fine. If I find her attractive, then I usually try to avoid being friends with her. It just doesn't seem like it'll go well. Right? But that's just me. It depends if we got something in common.…"

Dewuan .

@FryedOreo · 1w ago · 4:07

"…But I guess that's different because we did stuff and now we're friends. But yeah, I don't know, because usually that is now I have met some women off of social media where there was no dating pursuits and we're just for cool. So that's asbestos. So I can answer that at the moment. So my arm is getting heavy from holding this phone. But anyway, thanks for getting back to me on it. Bye.…"

@OmegaStrange

Nov3list Davis

@Nov3listDavis · 3d ago · 4:56

"…Me, on the other hand, I can be friends with anybody. I'm a cancer. I'm loving, I'm open minded. I can be friends with anyone if you give me the option and the opportunity too. But on the flip side, I relate to men more and better than females. In my past I've had a plethora of female friends, but the minute those female friends got into relationships, they kicked me to the curb.…"

Dewuan .

@FryedOreo · 3d ago · 1:55

"…Novelist Davis. Thank you for not only taking the time to listen to this swell, but to also offer an audio response. Yes, this was a fun conversation to be had. Personally, I had listened to a conversation where someone had posed a common question can men and women be friends? And this is to imply that males are automatically friends as well as women are automatically friends. But the opposites, that's where the drama can begin. And one of my best friends is a woman.…"

@Nov3listDavis

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